to not want potty training advice from my childless brother?

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

I've just been told I'm being "lazy" by not potty training my 2.3 yr old ds right now (because I really don't feel he's ready yet, and it's bloody cold so he can't just run round with no pants on for a couple of weeks)

This isn't the first golden nugget of parenting advice I've had off my childless older brother "If he touches the oven, try screaming in his face to scare him out of doing it again!" not to mention weight loss advice (he's 16 stone+) and money advice when he had nothing and I'd had to sell some things to buy his food shopping.

I love him but this unsolicited advice is driving me nuts. Oh and he just told me he likes coming round to my house because the mess makes him feel better about his own house.

Aibu to tell him to shut the f*ck up?

YANBU. At all.

I am amazed you haven't told him to "shut the fuck up" by now.

YANBU

Put ds in pants after a large cup of milk/water. Sit ds on db's knee.

Light touchpaper and stand well back.

YABVU

I get lots of good advice from passing strangers about how to help my sons ASD. They are often really helpful with diagnosis and helpful tips like " oooh like Rainman. They are always really good at stuff like numbers arn't they".

It is a basic joy in life to offer advice upon matters of which you have no experience.

It is the raison d'etre of MN.

well send DS to his for a week with 10 pairs of pants and tell him you want him back 'dry'

Sounds appealing until you consider his "scream in your toddlers face" technique, SPB! Supernanny he ain't!

Oh, I do love him but he's just such a thoughtless pillock sometimes.

yes, that's true

He's your brother? Not your BIL?

Tell him to shut the fuck up then.

My brother (also childless, and clueless in general) is a big sports/health nut and was helping devise a training programme for me, he had me running every evening as 'the girls would be in bed so they woulnd't know if DH was working'
'Also to take them to the gym with some crayons and I coul use the equipment when they were 9 months and 2.5ish.
Oh, and my (also childless) sisters advice on DD1 flicking peas at 8 months old was to smack her

I tend to respond with
'With all due respect, either mind your own or shut the fuck up, because you are talking bollocks.'

reminds me of my brother who thought that teasing children to the point of weeping was character building.

My DS1 is pretty cool really and when he started on him DS1 just stood there and looked at him like .
My brother said "isn't he going to say anything"
DS1 ( aged about 4) said "what are you doing."
I had to explain to my brother that DS1 wasn't around twats very often

"I had to explain to my brother that DS1 wasn't around twats very often"

LOL pagwatch

My childless sister used to offer me nuggets of parenting advice too - mainly based on second hand info from her friend. Thankfully we didn't see them very often whilst the boys were little - though I do remember one classic Boxing Day visit when we were all expected to sit down and make quiet conversation when the real candles on the christmas tree were lit. The dses were about 4, 6, and 8 at the time, and they wanted to move around, but BIL freaked out so dh had to take them outdoors.

They also weren't allowed to help blow the candles out.

Still - dsis is much better with the dses now they're older.

I second the no nappies, biiiig drink and straight onto dbro's knee! That'll larn 'im!

James - I think you'll find that screaming in your brother's face when he gives his next piece of unsolicited advice will scare him out of doing it again.

Or I like to say "really, and who died and made you supernanny?"

Hmmm my (older) sister and her DH also used to give me unwanted rubbish advice before they has their own children, because she could do it all so much better than me seeing as they were older/richer/cleverer/didn't live in the uk etc etc...

Took great pleasure in going to stay with her (minus my 3 children) for a long weekend after she had her second DS, sympathised with how stressful it all was, did all her ironing/cooking with a sunny smile on my face, helped her with the baby and his older brother, didn't bite when she snapped at me through tiredness, and made a point of not offering one iota of advice.

Shortly after this I had a grovelling apology from them both for being so far up their own arses about my kids it wasn't true and have recieved many a phone call since then calling on my expert advice.

Me? Smug?

theyoungvisiter, I could be really evil and make sure ds has a nice big bowl of weetabix the night before, that shoots through him!

Ladyanonymous, good on you for rising above it and not saying anything (not sure I could have been as noble! but then I suppose she did have a newborn)

Perhaps remind him taht we are ALL superb parents.......before we've had children

YABVU to tell him to shut the fuck up.

Telling him to shut the fuck up and then to fuck off would be far better!