To be suspicious of this guy ?

[Miyazaker]

I have been dating online through a well-known site for the last few months. I?ve been on seven or eight dates with the site so have got fairly good at reading between the lines (and was born cynical).

I have recently exchanged a few messages with someone who, on paper, looks promising. But in his last message, he said ?if you?d like to carry on chatting, email [email protected]?. I am a bit suspicious he is attached and using this email to avoiding accessing the site so often.

He does have a picture up and has a full, detailed profile, unlike a lot of the guys who are obviously out just for sex/married. Could there be a more innocent explanation ? anyone come across someone doing this?

I know many people with really quirky email addresses - for no other reason than just because they wanted to be a bit different.

In the grand scheme of things, does it really mattter?

Probably because his subscription is about to run out and he doesn't want to pay again so is handing out his email address to all the women he wants to continue being in contact with.

the email address is a normal one - I was just quoting him without revealing it - it's the fact that he wants to chat outside the site.

I think if you have been in contact for several months it maybe the next step in developing the relationship. Are you keen on him?
Not got any experience of this first hand but a friend is using several sites for dating, she seems to only talk to the guy via the site for a few days before giving out her e-mail AND mobile number . She is also quite happy to arrange a date after chatting for only a week.
Currently, she has had a guy staying with her (and her 4 kids) for 4 days, first time they have met . He has now gone home to fetch more clothes and is staying on indefinitely. Worst of all this is the second guy in 6 weeks she has asked to come and stay with her family.
She cannot understand why her Ex is 'slightly' concerned for their children's welfare.
Have tried to encourage her to be a bit more cautious but she just takes it that I don't want her to be happy. I do, but also want her to be safe and don't think inviting a complete stranger into her house to be a good thing. Also think it bit odd these guys have nothing else going on in their lives that they can just up sticks from another county and move in.

Sometimes it pays to give someone a chance. You never know what you could miss out on by being too cynical.

I met my OH on facebook without even having mutual friends or anything. We have now been together 2 years and expecting our first baby. I already have a DD.

I agree with pineapplechunks, his subscription is probably due to run out and doesn't want to pay again, can you blame him.

Just go for it girl, what is there to lose?!

@drivinmecrazy - I've been on the site for a few months but have only exchanged a few messages with this particular guy.

FWIW I have found the guys have generally asked me out after chatting a week or so - and am happy to meet them - I just make sure it's in public, for a short time.

I have internet dated, quite a bit in the past, I met my DP through the net (3 years in January) and remember that you get a feeling about certain men, just through their conversation, that all they are after is some saucy cyber chat and if you're up for that then fine, enjoy yourself and if you're not then you don't have to respond to his messages, that the beauty of net dating.

If you really have a bad feeling about this guy then just get rid, there are 1000's more out there, aren't there?

You don't have to give him your personal or work email but can set up a whole new, separate account just for net dating men to have. Handing out your email is another step along the way of getting to know each other. I really wouldn't fret unnecessarily, asking for your email isn't sinister in any way is it?