Sorry long one
I have 2 half brothers and a step sister who I am quite close to and I have lived with them at one point (I was mainly brought up by my nan). I think if these as 'proper' brothers and sister and never bother with the whole half thing (felt it was nessecary else people may not understand the thread). These are now all adults and I get on well with them. I also have another half sister (I'll call A) who is only 12 and her mum (we share a dad) has a son (I'll call B) from a previous relationship.
I have always treated all 5 'siblings' the same but I am getting fed up of this with regards to xmas and birthdays. No problem with the grown up siblings. The problem is with A and B. I have always bought presents for them for xmas and birthdays but never ever had a thank you. They are pretty spoilt and not that grateful. The year I had my DS it was my Bs bday the week before I gave birth. We had recently been evicted while I was pregnant, living somewhere we hated and I had an iminent birth on my mind. I forgot Bs bday. As a result I got no present (not that I expect it) or card, which yes I did expect after all these years of knowing their mum and getting on very well with her (when I had DS). My dad said his DP was annoyed that I 'didn't bother' with Bs bday. I explained to him my reasons and to be honest it is not that important to me anymore. Then his DP only came to visit me as she had kicked B out of the house (a regular occurence, he has serious behavioural problems, down to bad parenting on her part) and didn't want to sit a listen to him banging on the window. I know what he is like and he is not a nice person, and once he is an adult (not too far off) I know I will not see him, I only see him now about twice a year. I rarely see A also even though she lives down the road from me. I only seem to see her when she needs somewhere to go or to be picked up etc, which I have always done.
Anyway, this year I didn't get a present, I just sent a card when it was As bday as I know that if I gave her a present and not B, their mum would moan big time (you can't not give both, etc). When I went on holiday (a token from the newspaper holiday) my sister (A) asked me if I had brought her anything back, not did you have a nice time, just all about wanting as usual. I said we didn;t get anything for anyone and we weren't made of money. She then came out with (and if this had been face to face and not online I would have swung for her) "oh you can afford a new kitchen, carpets and go on holiday...." We have been saving for years to get a shared ownership house (all we can afford) and we had a little left over for some home improvements, I had a bit of inheritence to use for this. I started telling her then I said I didn't need to explain my finances to a 12 year old and who did she think she was. She then started going on about she always buys my presents when she goes away (no she doesn't, and not that I expect her to) and how she spent £30 on my DSs bday (again it was £10 but I don't care if it was a fiver, its the thought that counts).
Anyway for xmas I'm getting bloody fed up of it and have bought my grown up siblings some alcohol and I know they are getting DS some great stuff, don't know about me but not bothered. I have only bought A some chocolate and giving her photo keyring of her nephew. I have also bought a tin of sweets between A, B and their mum (who I'm not exactly sure if my dad is even with and if she is even going to be there on xmas day). If their mum is there I know there will be comparisons with what I have got my grown up siblings to what I have got her children. If she isn't there I know that the fact that I have got A something (even if it is small) but not for B will probably turn into an issue too.
So, really sorry for the long story but AIBU?