Am I being over sensitive?

[MarioChristmas]

DS2 has ASD and a severe speech delay. He has lots of speech but its mainly stuff he has copied from adults of TV programmes, but its very unclear and he has a low pitch to his voice. I can normally tell what he says but its not very clear at all to anyone else. Today he was babbling on as usual when MIL, who obviously didnt understand what he was saying shouted out 'Translation please'

I was a little upset TBH, I know he didnt understand what she was saying but I did and had to bite my tongue so that I didnt say something infront of the other DC's.

A bit tactless and blunt. Typical MIL behaviour.

How old is he?

Next time she talks do the same!
YANBU but a tinsy wincy bit sensitive.

next time she is blathering on,shout translation please.see how she likes it

and it is rude and tactless but isnt typical. MIL behavior.maybe your mil costagirl but such generalisations not applicable to all

Sounds insensitive to me. Agree with costagirl it was tactless and blunt, is your MIL normally like this or is it out of character?

Yeah, I'm thinking that it was the height of rudeness there too...

Jump on that if she says it again... It's not a case of being typical or not, that's just plain rude.

Im glad that others think the comment was out of order. It isnt unusual foe her but I dont think thats the point. She does not have any social skills at all.

YANBU. Your MIL was just plain rude.

Don't bite your tongue next time. Calling her out on her bad behavior actually sends a good message to all of your kids. That is, as long as you don't scream like a Banshee and brandish a butcher knife. Which I'm certain you wouldn't. Do it calmly.

I agree with AmericanHag, if she does it again, tell her - in front of the kids - to please not speak to him like that, as he is doing his best and his best is always good enough for you.

Show her and the kids that her behaviour is out of order and you won't stand for it.

And like AH says, do it calmly and politely, to show how it's done.

Yeah, you don't have to say anything aside from "Excuse me? That was RUDE!"

no,adults shouldn't drag their arguments in front of children. show some composure calmly tell her alone 1:1 you found her comment hurtful and cruel about her grandchild

life isnt jeremy kyle,every damn family squabble need not be a face to face confrontation

You should have just said 'no,no ds granny isnt fat shes just plump fat is a rude word'......

I'd be fuming if I were you - what your mil said was cruel, and utterly insensitive.
But you were absolutely right not to say anything in front of the other kids.
YANBU at all (or over sensitive) to feel the way you do.