...to think that being 36+ weeks pregnant is enough of a reason not to go out?

[CoffeeMum]

I'm a bit hesitant to give too much detail, but in general, would someone being 36.5 weeks pregnant be enough of a reason for them not to attend a social event that finishes late at night? Just wanted a bit of a show of hands/straw poll really....thanks!

Have they got children? I'm sure they will understand. I went out when I was only 6 months pregnant to a bar where everyone was drunk and loud and just hated it after about 15 minutes, complete waste of money as we had to get a taxi home again (after getting one there)

I'd say that late pregnancy alone is no absolute reason to avoid going out. But feeling crap because of late pregnancy is.

Everyone is different though. I loved going out while expecting ds1 (he was 2 weeks late and the distraction of being out with friends was marvellous in itself) but 18 months later, when ds2 was about to arrive, life was a deal less spontaneous anyway.

I do know that I tended to avoid events that involved standing up for ages or being squashed behind tables in overcrowded rooms from which there seemed no escape. Ex-dh being rather sniffy when I declined a birthday do (at 38 weeks) in an extremely popular Brighton pub.

It's up to individuals though. I'd just say it is a shame to treat late pregnancy as the sort of illness that precludes any sort of social life. You can, however, use it as a handy excuse for events you wouldn't want to attend regardless of being pregnant!

depends what it is,pg isnt a confinement.if it is quiet meal/work do then cab home- ok
loud,busy,packed - no
again depends on you what you can tolerate.if you dont fancy it dont go

I was driving around at 41 weeks pg, didn't really worry about when baby would pop, just carried on with everyday stuff. As for going out at night, no, I wasn't out late at night at that stage of my pg. It is tiring and you should try and rest as much as you can before all hell breaks loose!lol

Depends how you feel. I went to a friends wedding 11 days before my due date.

As someone who seems to have early babies (first 3 weeks, second 5 weeks early) I would say YANBU!

If you want to go out and think you would enjoy it, go out. If you aren't comfortable with the idea or are worried, don't go out. Simple. Don't worry what other people think or say, everyone's different.

just wanted to add that i think 36 weeks pregnant is the time to be doing pretty much whatever you want to! it'll be the last time you get to for a while, so don't spend any of it doing things you don't want to.

Absoultely Emmalina- I don't think you even need pregnancy as an excuse. If you don't want to, don't go.

It's cold, dark and most probably wet outside.

That's the beauty of being a grown up, we can to do what we want (that's what DS1 thinks anyway).

depends. I attended a big do on my due date ith ds1, and walked home 2 miles too! ith ds2 though I ouldnt hae been arsed. Ds3 as born after a day in ikea.... thats my life no I suppose!

YANBU

I'm 38 weeks and have cancelled going to a good friend's 40th b'day party tomorrow night. I'm knackered, can barely move because of SPD, obviously can't drink, am enormous (and really can't be arsed to try and find an 80's fancy dress costume to fit me ) and would only sit around all night with a face like a slapped arse if I did go.

Luckily my friend is lovely and completely understands

Are you ill or pregnant? Don't see what the problem is?

On ds4 I felt horrible at that stage, huge and had SPD so found getting up difficult, sitting down difficult, walking difficult and none of my trousers would stay up!
uppie, if anyone ever suggests pregnancy is not an illness, I could scream. I suffered horrible nausea and vomiting for all of my pregnancies and even on a good day, never felt well. So even if it wasn't an illness, it was a pretty good imititation of one!

If you do want to go, then I don't think being 36+ weeks pg is a good enough reason not to go out if this is the only reason. If you are 36+ weeks pg and feel rubbish, uncomfortable etc, then yes it is and your friends should happily accept that.

If you don't want to go then just saying that you are heavily pg and feel awful is fine.

I actually felt great during the last few weeks of both my pg's and actually came home from a night out, went to bed and woke up in labour with my 1st. My 2nd was due over christmas and I enjoyed various xmas parties, christmas day at my sisters etc and went into labour on the 27th.

If it was me , I didnt go out at that far gone. My friend was dancing at my wedding at 40 weeks so everyone is differnt but noone should query it

If you can't use being pregnant as an excuse by 36 weeks wft can you ?

one the due date for dd1 I was at a gig and had a great time.
With dd2 I had SPD and didn't even want to get off the sofa unaided.
Don't worry for a second about not going. My cousin was around 36-37 weeks pregnant on our wedding day in June, and though she was invited I didn't bat an eyelid when she didn't come.