to let dd have the day of school.

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She had the rehearsal for the dancing show last night and we didn't get in until 11pm, she is normally tucked up in bed by 7pm. so this morning I thought we would wait and see how she is, well she is still fast asleep, so I phoned school, told them why, thye sounded really shocked, should I have lied, should I have woke her up and sent her? anyway they were fine and said to send her in when she does get up.
I personally think that at 6yo 1 day off school is not going to do any damage and that taking part in a dancing show is a life experience that she will learn an awful lot from. so AIBU to leave her fast asleep and preparing for the performance tonigt?

I did this once, but I did warn the school in advance that she was having a late night. They agreed that she would not learn anything if she was too tired in the morning and I should bring her in at lunch time. This way they know what to do about the lessons she misses (or they can tell me what she is missing, so I can cover it).

I did warn her teacher a few days ago, said I would see how she is this orning, she is still in bed asleep.

If she's too tired for school, she's too tired. Whatever the reason. So long as you don't generally let her sit up till 11 I don't see the problem at all. It's far worse to send them in when their not fit for a day at school and then they're unhappy.

YANBU to keep her at home, however I would question why a dance show rehersal involving 6 year old children went on until 11pm on a school night?! That seems unreasonable!

I wouldn't have told the school why she wasn't in. Would have said she was poorly.

3yo dd2 was also in the show, I have wondered myself about the time but it is the whole dance school so goes up to adults.
I didn't want to lie to school as I knew dd would want to tell them al about it on Monday and I want her to be able to iyswim.

I think keeping her home is absolutely fair enough, but you maybe need to have a chat with the Dance School. 11pm is way just too late - they need to rethink how they sort these rehearsals.

Why cant they have rehearsals at weekends?

Seems a bit OTT keep 6 year olds up to that time, dancing.

Yanbu to let her sleep in.

However the dancing school is being extremely unreasonable to have 3 and 6 yo rehearsing until 11 at night. Very bad planning imo.

Dd is in panto atm, and rehearses 5-8 every night, then 10-5 at the weekends. She will miss 8 days of school over the 6 week period it runs, we have a licence for this though, agreed with the headteacher and my daughter's GP.
Legally, children must be out of the theatre by 10pm. Why don't they rehearse the smaller ones earlier, and let the teens do the later shift?

it has always been the same, is only one week, thursday dress rehersal and fri and sat show nights.

YABU. I didn't sleep at all last night but still showed up for work this morning. Such is life, I think you are giving her the wrong message. But I also think the dance club is crazy for having such a late rehearsal - even for adults!