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To be secretly pleased that dh is not finding being a SAHP as easy as he thought?

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TAFKAtheUrbanDryad · 26/11/2009 18:15

My dh got made redundant on Tuesday, with immediate effect, and has been at home today, "helping" me out. This morning he took ds to toddler group while I took dd to an NCT meeting (had to go to help a mate out), and then dh dropped ds off at nursery for the afternoon, then coming home and doing some chores around the house (he put some washing on ) before going to get ds from nursery.

When it came to teatime for the kids, he hadn't planned anything so cobbled together a perfectly adequate dinner from stuff in the cupboards (top marks, that man!) but is now fumbling around juggling them both trying to get them in the bath.

The house looks like a bomb's hit it and there doesn't appear to be any dinner for us - I feel the chip shop may be beckoning.

I have offered to help, but he just gets cross and snaps that it's not that hard, but he's clearly struggling. I will go and give him a hand getting the dc in their pyjamas in a mo.

It just makes me larf that even though he only had 1 child for most of the day, he couldn't even manage half of what i do - yet I work (when not on mat leave) and still manage the childcare/housework arrangements. I'm hoping that a little bit of time at home will make dh appreciate me more!

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RainRainGoAway · 27/11/2009 12:06

Hope all goes well then Takfka with going back to work and your DH finds a job which he is happier in.

loobylu3 · 27/11/2009 13:15

It sounds as if he is trying really hard especially just after being made redundant! It is good for the working mum/ dad to appreciate the SAHP role. Equally, it is just as important for the SAHP to appreciate the stress of the WOHP's job. It sounds as if the OP and her DH work well as a team actually!

KERALA1 · 27/11/2009 13:15

It is deeply annoying though when you are a SAHP (I have 2 under 3, minimal childcare and take in foreign students who I cook for and dont have any cleaner etc) but am told by my clueless childfree BIL that I am having an easy time of it. I would love him to live my life for a week or so and see how her fares. I love my life but it is busy and its bloody annoying when its assumed you are a lady of leisure just because you dont have a pay packet.

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad · 27/11/2009 14:22

tWas not always thus, looby. We had to work really hard at our relationship ( went to Relate, partially on the advice of scottishmummy, actually) and learned how to compromise!

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Alambil · 27/11/2009 14:27

knowing past threads, YADefinitelyNBU!

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