Another MIL/Christmas AIBU.

[Marioandluigi]

Sorry, its another one, but I really wanted opinion

We have gone to MIL for breakfast (after we have opened all our presents) for the last couple of years, but this year I have decided that its too much, DS2 who has SN doesnt like going to her house so screams constantly, she does it at a funny time so the children are hungry and mardy and everything is a rush. DH agrees that its not a great arangement so instead we invited them for tea.

MIL has told DH that she wants the children to wait until they visit in the evening to open thier presents. I dont want to do this for two reasons.

1)I love it when the children come down on Christmas morning to open thier presents, all the excitement and fun playing with new toys. This is what we have always done and it means I wont have to deal with the DC's asking to open thier presents all day because they are expecting to open them in the morning.

2. She has never been here to see the children open our pressies before, and she brings her presents with her.

AIBU to say we will let the children open the presents from us in the morning? I invited her round to ours in the morning but she refused.

yanbu
she is crazy, how can she expect kids to wait all day to open presents especially when they are used to it in the morning? i think that would ruin their day...
she can bring her presents at that time, and watch them open those, that would be sufficient surely

Glad I am not the only one who thinks she IBU. She does expect me to keep all the presents until she comes over about 4.30pm.

DH has spoken to her and said we are not going to do what she wants, which caused lots of wailing about how we have ruined her Christmas

When we were younger we had our Santa presents in the morning, and then our other presents after dinner, about 2pm. This was fine because it was what we always did, but as DS1, who is 8, is used to opening all his presents in the morning as soon as he wakes, The day would be so stressful with him wanting to know why things had changed, moaning and whining.

She is quite mad and YANBU

Let her wail!!! You offered for them to come over in the morning but she refused so tough titties imo!!!

YANBU!!!

cat64 - we live in a very small 2 bedroomed flat. mil is coming for xmas and refused to stay in a hotel (hotel is 2 mins walk from our flat).

So my 20 year old dd is staying at the hotel with my much younger dsis. mil went mad when I mentioned booking a hotel until she realised it was for dd.

So it is ok for dd to stay in a hotel but not for my precious mil.

To the op - YANBU. Just keep mil pressies back until she comes to visit.

Sorry for a slight thread hi-jack.

Op, nod and agree to shut her up, but do what the hell you like in your own house, your own family, your own kids.

When she rocks up and exclaims her horror, say we thought about it, and asked everyone we knew, and they all said, without exception that it was the cruelest thing they'd ever heard...

Agree with groundhogs

You could also do that, but instead say "Oh, we were planning to wait, but the kids got up before us and had them opened before we even got down the stairs"

I always had to wait until after Christmas dinner, but that was because it was a family tradition that had been happening since before I was born, so it was normal to me.

It is not for your DC's. Let them open the presents and feign sorrow!

yanbu

No need to make a big deal of it, just say it won't work. But that they will love having extra to open when they come over.

Sheesh. families eh?