AIBU to think DDs nursery should know how to wipe an arse

[Amaiasmum]

Twice this week DD has come home from nursery with nappy rash and poo stains in her nappy because nursery havent wiped her bum properly.Dh says dont say anything because they have alot of kids blah blah blah.But isnt changing a nappy basic childcare and AIBU to want DD bum wiped properly.

Ive already complained today because yesterday i saw them and they were in the playground with the kids who are a year or so older and they were swinging her ON THE STAIRS.

this really would aggravate me

toileting is basic part of a child's care and if not done properly you get nappy rash as a result

don't be afraid to raise it and get it sorted out and as for swinging her on the stairs ... also needs to be addressed ...

Ive had no issues up until now, DD is happy,but i think i will be saying something tomorrow.

yanbu, i would definitely complain about this. it is essential for them to be cleaned properly, quite unhygenic to leave remnants of poo behind!! it really does not take long to do the job properly

You need to say something, that is not on. Its not exactly rocket science to wipe an arse, even DH manages on occasion

You need to say something, and if she has a sore bum make sure you put cream in her bag and ask them to apply after a nappy change

There is no excuse for this

No excuse - even my 5-yo DD can spot a missed bit of poo when I'm changing her little sister.

Yes Yes Yes of course they should know how to wipe a babies/toddlers bum properly its part of their job, the kids are in their care and cannot do these things for themselves as they are far too young. YANBU at all.

I put loads of sudecrem on before her nap, and she is sleeping still so it must be doing the trick.
Im just trying to think how im going to word it as i dont want to come across as being a bitch lol

I would be furious!

This is very basic childcare and your child has the right to not be made sore because they can't be bothered!

I'm a CM (my 3 little ones are all asleep), none of them have ever been sent home with a dirty or sore bottom! It's the least you can do for a child in your care!

Just phrase it around the nappy rash... say you're making sure that she's extra extra clean and applying barrier cream at every change.

YANBU, your child is in discomfort because of their incompetence. It is not difficult. If it is, there is a serious problem.

You must say something.

Good idea Fourarms i think thats how i will approach it tomorrow.

Lisa thats exactly what i thought,changing a nappy is so basic, im starting to worry what else are they not doing..

Cor, you still here Pavlov??

Amaiasmum, I think you have to say something and it doesn't have to sound bitchy etc. It is perfectly reasonable for you to mention this.
My DD only started nursery part time last month. She is 2 1/2 and potty trained but one day came home with poo stains on her pants and the next day I just asked her key worker if they can make sure they check her bottom after she has been to the loo as I was not sure she is wiping it properly. The response was - sure, not a problem at all - and I fully expect them to do it from now on.

My DD sometimes has stains even at home due to overflow from her constipation (poor sausage)but if your little one hasn't got this problem there's definately no excuse.
Hope it went ok when you mentioned it to them.

Still here! 8 days over now!

Thanks for the replies.

Took DD to nursery today and had a word with the nursery nurse.

I just laid it out on the table really, because i cant be bothered beating around the bush.I just said can they make sure to clean her thoroughly.She wasnt offended i think and said no problem.

Thanks again

glad you had a word with staff

yanbu to expect your dd bum to be cleaned and not covered in poo

tbh this would have really pissed me off - its not hard to wipe a pooey bum in nappies, though can understand the odd skid mark in knickers if you dont know the child has gone for s poo and is potty trianed and hasnt wiped own bum properly

LOL, Blondes, DD2 (3yo) got into the bath the other night, DH picked up her clothes from the floor, knickers covered in poo.

'DD2, when you went for a poo today, did wipe your bottom?'

'No, I did it all by mineself!' big, cheesy, aren't-I-a-clever-girl grin.

No kidding

least she tried

unlike my friends dc who is 7 and STILL cant wipe her own bum

Im a nursery nurse and would hate for any mums of children in my care to think this - I am scrupulous about nappy hygeine and I think you would be right to mention this.