to want to bite my son?

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I am at my wits end.

DS2 is a biter. Mainly at nursery, though occasionally at home.

Hes been put on an action plan as it was up to 3-4 times a day.

Since then he's been better (even going for a couple of weeks with no incidents) but today was awful.

Normally he bites when toys are fought over etc. Today he leaned over to an innocent little girl (just started there yesterday) and bit her nose. So hard it drew blood, and her parents had to come.

I am so upset. I have tried everything - but how do you reason with a 20mo? How do you teach them not to bite?

I keep getting told to bite him so he sees how painful it is, and have always poo-poohed the idea. But after 4-5 months of this I am desperate.

AIBU to think of biting him in the hope it stops him? Ok, I know an eye for an eye isnt the way to go, but I am desperate for some ideas! The nursery are really trying but I keep thinking they're running out of patience and we'll be asked to leave

my ds 2.5 is a biter, and joy of joys dd 1 is now a biter, she has cured her brother, but now i have to stalk her obsessively, she LOVES it she bites everything, and anything and clearly enjoys it, my couch is ruined as are most peoples we knows shoulders, it sucks, but theres sweet f a i can do to teach her its bad but say no firmly, follow her around and try try and try again!

I feel for you, I had a biter she even bit the childminders son so hard he screamed

If I caught her doing it I used to shout quite loudly to shock her and say something along the lines of 'biting really hurts and makes people sad, don't do it' I would then sit her on the floor, back to me or anyone else and ignore her, did this a few times and it worked for us?

Hope you get it sorted soon xx

My dc3 was a biter at about the age of 2/3 and I did all the telling off and eventually was reduced to saying if you do that again I am going to bite you so you see how painful it is. The threat stopped him for a while and then one day in the car he bit dc2.

We stopped the car. I decided I had to follow through, so first bit myself to check how hard to bite him as I wanted to just give him a little nip and not really hurt him, and even just my little nip on my own hand really really hurt. So then I was hopping up and down in pain as well as my dc2. Ooops.

But I did go through with it, and bit him very gently on the hand, and it did shock him and he never did it again.

So, no, YANBU.