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to not have reminded my friend about my birthday?

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onthepier · 23/11/2009 18:44

It was my birthday a few weeks ago, and I happened to meet up with my friend the afternoon before, at a school event.

We've known each other years, I always remember her birthday. She normally remembers mine but not always, (this doesn't bother me at all btw!)

Anyway, my ds let slip to her the following day that it was my birthday, he and her children are good friends. She's been making the odd comment since, saying that I really could have mentioned the following day was my birthday when we met, then she would have had time to get me a card and small gift, and wouldn't have felt so awful about forgetting!

I've told her that it really didn't matter, (she popped in the day after with a hastily wrapped gift), I was grateful but she needn't have.

Do other people tend to remind people of their birthdays, or keep quiet? I'm of the mindset that if someone remembers they do, if they don't they don't. I certainly don't think less of them for it!

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RubysReturn · 23/11/2009 18:47

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Chandon · 23/11/2009 18:49

You are BU to start a thread about it, if you really don´t care about it...

If you really did not care, why start a thread?

fact is, you are keeping scores on this one, and she fell into "the Birthday trap".

Anyway, she should not blame you. It´s not up to you to remind her.

PercyPigPie · 23/11/2009 18:55

I wouldn't dream of reminding someone it was my birthday - very rude.

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RJRabbit · 23/11/2009 19:04

I sing from the rooftops about my own birthday, but am crap at remembering when my friends' are . I certainly wouldn't be annoyed with them for not reminding me!

Firawla · 23/11/2009 20:04

i would not remind anyone because it seems like a hint "buy me a present" so in that angle it seems rude. well i do remind my dh but not anyone else...
i think your friend just feels guilty that's all, not a big issue

lovechoc · 23/11/2009 20:19

nope I usually tell people AFTER my birthday is long gone, so it saves them buying a present or a card. It also means one less present or card I need to get them in return!

chickbean · 23/11/2009 20:30

My birthday is soon after Christmas and my BF always forgets (I don't mind at all). We have a mutual friend whose birthday is five days later. By this time BF's brain is in gear and she always gets in touch to say "I forgot, didn't I". It's become a tradition.

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