to be pissed off with my neighbour

[kateecass]

ok, i live on a road that only has parking on the road and is busy. Most people have more than one car so it gets full up at night. Anyway, my in-laws are staying with us as my MIL had an op last week and has a follow up tomorrow.

Part of the reason they are also staying rather than going home is they have stayed to help out with my kids so that I could go and see my newborn nephew for a few days.

Anyway, they came on Tues and parked outside my neighbours house. They haven't moved their car since then and this morning my DH found a note PASTED to their car saying "to the person who has abandonned their car outside my house it has been most inconvenient and I've had to unpack bags please park somewhere else in future". I can see her point a bit as I do get a bit annoyed if people park outside our house for days in a row (I have kids and bags to unpack) and if I'd been here I probably would have asked them to move it outside our house. BUT to paste the note so that it took my and another neighbour to get it off with soapy water (we were trying to do it in secret so that MIL wouldn't get upset) also she could have asked if anyone knew who it was rather than posting it in the night or early this morning.

I nearly went to knock on her door in my PJs! I was told by another neighbour that she is a bit like this so probably not a good thing.

So do you think IABU or do you think next time she parks outside my house I should go and ask her how long she plans to stay cos she has parked there for a long time before and it doesn't really bother me cos it's the nature of the road we live on.

Oh, and the icing on the cake is that I was told when her sister goes on holiday from Manchester airport she leaves her car on the road!!!

aaah, that feels better!

Pippa251

But she left a RUDE note and glued it, rather than just putting it under wiperblade. I think the way she did it was rather aggressive (not sure that's the right word). It was an A4 piece of paper literally wallpapered to the car..it had to be soaked off.

If I was here I would have asked in laws to move it.

Quote: I wouldn't give a fuck who parks their car outside my house and for how long. I live on a residential street with no driveways and no allocated parking. I'm just happy to be able to park on my actual street after the last place I lived, and it's free rather than having to wait 9 months for one permit per household for £90 a year thankyouverymuch.

Um, but that's the point really - where I live there isn't enough room for EVERYONE who lives there to park on my 'actual street', hence the unwritten rule that each household uses ONE space on the street and parks additional cars elsewhere (a short walk away). I don't see what's wrong with that, or that my neighbours and I (who are happy with that arrangement, as it seems fair and reasonable and equitable) are 'entitled twats with an inflated sense of importance'. But each to their own, eh?

Make a big sign that says SORRY FOR PARKING OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE and paste it to their front window.

I would be annoyed if a car was parked outside my house for a week tbh, if it wasn't moved and I had to park further away the whole time. Our street has one allocated space per house apart from the last few houses but we live in the sticks so everyone has two cars, and the numbers aren't very clearly marked. (DH parks his car round the corner in a car park) I get annoyed when our space is taken right outside the door because I have to unload a toddler, leave her in the house with the door shut and then dash back and grab all the bags etc, gets on my wick. But gluing a note on the car is completely unreasonable.
I think YA both BU, it's part of living on that street but a little consideration and maybe moving PILs car after a few days means she can park outside her house, and she shouldn't glue stuff to cars cos it's a mean thing to do.

Think everyone agrees including me that he should have moved it but that she was a silly old bag for gluing it to the car. If I see her I might tell her sorry that if I had been around I would have told FIL to move it but point out that it was most likely illegal to have glued the note to the car.

The road is really v busy. it is a cul-de-sac but with 60 houses on it and about 3 have driveways. There is just one space outside each house and actually not even that for the terraced houses and really are no spare space to park. You can't park around the corner as such cos all the surrounding roads are like this. The unstated rules are that if you can park in front of your house you do and if not then park anywhere. If you can't park outside your house then you really don't have a choice but to park outside someone else's house. There's just not enough room for anyone to leave the space outside each person's house free. It doesn't help that the house opposite has 4 cars.

Right I'm over it!

I agree that it's a public road and legally people can park anywhere they like. You accept the parking conditions when you choose a property and if you have to have parking on your doorstep then a driveway is the only option.

I agree it's incredible annoying though, especially when you have children to get into the house and the shopping. An unfortunate fact of life though I'm afraid.

In answer to the OP, YANBU to be annoyed about the note.

i live on exactly this type of street and we all try and park outside our own houses only as it is a total PITA to get kids/ shopping etc in if you can't park outside.

If I can't get outside my own house, I don't park in neighbours space but at end of the road instead as I try to be considerate to others and I tell most guests that are visiting for more than an hour or two (relatives) to park at end of the road that bothers no-one as no houses there.

I think YABU to leave your MIL car there for days - that would have driven be barmy .

How would your neighbout have known it was your MIL's? Could have been anyone - she wouldn't have recognised the car.

I kind of think what she did was fair enough. One of you should have moved the car.

Someone has in the past parked outside my house for days I asked my neighbours either side if they knew whose car it was. They didn't....end of story. Car was moved a couple of days later. I can't remember which but I was either PG or had DS and baby, so it was inconvenient. I just parked as near to house as poss. No biggy. I didn't bother sticking a note to car. Why do people think the space outside their house is theirs??
I'm sure in that time she must have seen our neighbour who lives in between us and could have mentionned it, who would then have mentionned it to us. No confrontation needed either.

Incidentally when I parked up this pm (opposite our house cos someone else was parked outside our house) she was outside. She must know whose car it was by now as PIL car was immediately moved outside ours after note. She didn't say anything tho.