to wish that my friend would agree to disagree for the sake of our friendship ?

[MrsMorgan]

I have been friends with this person since childhood.

As adults, our lives took completely different paths. I met xp and had children whilst working in low paid part time jobs, and she went to uni and made a career and doesn't currently have children.

After being with xp for 10 years, we split. I am now on benefits and looking for work.

My friend absolutly hates me being on benefits, she thinks that it means I have alot more money than her, and get to do what I like all day every day. She constantly critiscies me for not applying for jobs which she thinks I should and doesn't listen when I explain that I couldn't apply because I couldn't do the required hours or whatever.

She has just been away for 2 weeks and the minute she got back she was emailing me again going on and on about how she is broke and how lucky I am.

I have said several times, that I think we should just agree to disagree and yet she carries on. AIBU to think she just just leave the subject alone ??

she sounds awful, you could do without such a friend. if you dont want to cut things off with her completely due to your parents being friends just if she contacts you then give a short reply, nothing too much, but dont bother to contact her yourself.

A life on benfits for those that would love to work is demoralising and depressing enough with out having a crap friends. Friends are meant to be supportive not to make someone feel bad about themselves as it appears she is attempting to do.

This is terrible behaviour for a friend.

Well surprise surprise, since I gave her a piece of my mind i've not had a reply.

Oh well.

Oh right so she spent the equivalent of either over half her annual salary or almost her DH's entire salary, on one day, and she's booking Rick Stein, and pleading poverty at the same time?

She's not broke, she's just an arse living well beyond her means and bitching about it.

That in itself is abhorrant enough, but to be on at you regarding benefits? WTF?

She has no right, and I mean no right to literally piss her own money up the wall, then be on at you for being in receipt of benefits.

I swear, I'd tell her some home truths and give her a serious warning. Talk to me on this subject again, and there will be no further contact.

Stupid cow.. (Mrs £17k wedding day, not you OP )

Lol, now she has emailed saying that she thinks she has upset me and can't understand why because she thought we were just having a general discussion. Oh and that she thought maybe I wanted to talk about it because perhaps my dad or my ex had said something to upset me

She reckons she was trying to show me that not everyone thinks that benefit claimers are the same and that I obviously am a bit paranoid.

She said she wasn't getting at me, but just pointing out how people that work feel. Just like she is sure alot of people on benefits think people who work are rich

LOL

Obviously, I would think that wouldn't I, because I have never worked, and when I was with xp, he didn't work either NOT

I have replied saying that I am not upset, but that I am not paranoid either, and her views on the subject do make me feel like she is blaming me for her having to work.

I have also asked again that we agree to disagree and just forget about it.

tell her if she honestly believes its such a better life then g ive up her job and holidays, sign on the dole and see for herself.

Just a small update.

Basically my friend agreed to disagree but only after saying how she thought I was reading it all wrong and that if I read back through the emails she thought i'd see that .

It has not been mentioned since, but she was supposed to come over to drop two presents off for my dc and instead she left them at my dad's and my brother gave them to me today.

I feel so dissapointed that after all the years that we were friends, she feels it is ok to treat me like this.

In future I am only going to have contact with her if she emails/txts/whatever me first. I am not going to ignore her completely because I still wish to remain friends with her parents because I like them and they were very good to me when I went through my parents divorce as a child.

I do feel glad that I actually told her to back off though, because I am not normally very good at standing up for myself.