Another Wedding Thread

[DrunkenDaisy]

Having read the recent wedding threads, I'm interested to know what you guys think about a situation that happened to me a couple of years ago, because tbh it still pisses me off when i think about it.

Ok, my oldest (not necessarily closest, but good friend) gets engaged. The wedding is planed to be very lavish. Friend asks my DD (who is her god daughter) to be bridesmaid, which is very kind and sweet. But when the invitation arrives she neglects to invite my partner. I email her to ask if he's invited, and she responds that no, he is not invited due to space and numbers etc.

Now, to be fair she had only met my partner a couple of times, and we weren't then married (we are now), and it's true the wedding was in a small exclusive location - prob no more than 70 people.

So AIBU for being gutted and pissed off to have to go to the wedding without my partner. Even my parents were invited fgs, but in retrospect this could be cos her parents forked out loads of money for it and therefore had a say in the invites.

Also, should mention, that I prob had a bit of a chip on my shoulder from having been a single mum for 6 yrs at that point and was thrilled to have finally met my DP....

I think that the old thing about the bride being able to do what she wants on her wedding day is important - but I would say she was being at the very least a bit dense (how would she have felt had roles been reversed?) if not actively sending some message about how she felt about your partner at the time.

If she was a very old friend I probably would have said something, jokingly perhaps, to at least find out WHY she was ignoring partner?

I don't think you're being unreasonable...but glad you're over it - there's nothing worse than letting it rankle.

YABU re: your parents being invited as wedding ettiquette dictates that in terms of invites the bride's parents get 1/3 the groom's parents get 1/3 and the happy couple get 1/3. However if you had been together for one year that was a real snub by your friend. And really rude.

I recently went to a wedding where the bride was so unbelievably rude i still can't comprehend it and it has totally ruined our friendship. I have seen bridezillas before weddings but never on the day. Shocking.

Come on Stigaloid!

You can't say something interesting like that and not give all the details....please.

I love a good wedding debate . YANBU. A year is long enough if there is such a thing. A friend of DH's boycotted our wedding because we wouldn't let his squeeze of two week come. We have never heard from him since (9 years). He was no great loss; he was a creep who used to grope me. Ugh.

I think a lot of people invite married partners and not unmarried partners, regardless of how long they have been together - I remember going to a wedding without my boyfriend of five years but other friends who had been together with their husbands for a shorter time did get invitations as a couple. It's one way of whittling down the numbers.

When I got married I invited one friend and her boyfriend - he couldn't come, so she just brought a mate. It was fine by us.

I didn't know about the etiquette of thirds(luckily both parents and MIL are very laid back and didn't make any demands guests-wise).

I would never have expected someone who had an other half to attend my wedding without their other half also being invited. I can remember being a bit agonised over making sure that our wedding guests were sitting with people they'd get on with.

YANBU at all. I think, in your shoes, I'd feel a bit cooler towards a friend who had done this to me.

well thank you all.

Stigaloid - you must tell us your story!