Right. DP and I have just finished doing up our house. Everything nice and clean. Lots of nice, white, new bedlinen, throws, towels etc.
DP's sister comes for the weekend so that we can got to a spa for the day. We have an all day package. She decides to swap one of her treatments for a spray on fake tan and has three coats of the stuff.
I am (admittedly) very worried about this as she is in our nice new guest room with the nice new towels etc. DP's sister is lovely but doesn't really care much for her environment, lives in a rented flat so never worried too much about stains etc, all sheets and towels still from uni and covered in fake tan/make up etc.
As we leave, the therapist warns her (in front of me) that the fake tan stuff stains horribly and to use old towels etc. She should also be careful about not transferring it she she is sitting down and before she has had a shower. I say to her, half-joking, half seriously that I can make up a quarantine for her in another room with old sheets and towels etc. When we get home, DP and I do this and I put out two old(er) towels for her to use when she wants a shower. As it is DP's sister and I have already made my point, I ask him if he can basically tell (not in front of me) just not to take the piss with the fake tan and try and be as careful as she can.
Sister arrives home along with a female friend who she has invited along to stay for the weekend too (only telling us on the Thursday). This friend has stayed on various occasions but essentially uses the house as a hotel - doesn't bring any booze etc and just drinks ours. However, how can I really say no to her coming?
I next go upstairs,the old towels have not been used for the shower but my nice new white ones. You can guess the rest.
I have to say, I went bananas at DP. He in turn went bananas back at me and said that I need to stick up for myself and he is not in control of his sister. My view is that it is HIS sister and he should speak to her re this and bloody well tell her that her that this is not on.
He is now furious with me and is accusing me of trying to drive a wedge between his sister and I. I feel that our house is not being treated with respect and neither am I.
Please be brutally honest with me (as I know you will be). Should I just be sucking this up and am I just a total house proud control freak? I feel as though I have lost all perspective and that DP is not supporting me.