AIBU to get fed up of friends child?

[Itchyhead]

Need some opinions on this one. I often go to my friends house, easiest way to meet up. She has a DS just over 3 and I have a DD 19 months. I feel bad for her as her DP is away a lot and she is on her own quite a bit, plus I really like her and want to continue our friendship but I get really fed up of her DS. He just will not share. It happens everytime. As soon as my DD picks up a toy that her DS isn't playing with, her DS comes straight over and takes it away. It happens with anything and everything that my DD picks up. I took some of DDs favourite toys for her to play with to try and keep the peace (I know that toddlers don't get the whole sharing thing anyway) but then my friends DS would take them as well and when my DD asked nicely for them back he would hide them away or just walk away with it, He didn't even want to play with it as as soon as my DD picked up something else, he wanted that too. When my DD was playing with her own toys, friends DS had a screaming fit that he wanted her toys as well. My friend just sits there and lets her DS do this. Sometimes she'll say "you have to share" but thats it. Her DS doesn't share but she never stops him taking everything away and this then upsets my DD, so my friend puts the tv on "to keep my DD quiet".

I spoke to my mum who thinks that I should tell friends DS off but I can't go into someone elses house, tell their child off when the parent is sat right there and obviously doesn't see a problem with it. It really puts me off wanting to meet up which is a shame as I do like my friend and we get on well but I think we are both getting really fed up of the situation. AIBU?

Agree with the leaving children to sort it out among themselves - when they are similar ages and there isn't an obvious discrepancy in their behaviour for eg one being much more forceful than the other / one getting upset much more easily than the other etc.

In this situation where the friends ds is almost twice as old as ops dd I don't think this would work tbh

No I don't think leaving them at this stage will work. Its just too one sided with her DS being older. I know my DD doesn't like sharing either. She has a fit if someone touches something of hers but I don't let her. If she wasn't playing with it, then she has to let the other child play with it and not have it just because it it hers and she wants it.

Alicet, agree that seeing my DD so upset should make me say something, not to my friend, but in a nice was to her DS. He did try and walk off with DDs bag when we were just about to leave and was looking at me as he was doing it, I could see what he was doing out of the corner of my eye. I just turned and looked at him and he put it down straight away, so I'm thinking that he may respond better to me saying something.

And minx, yes I think as long as it isn't raining, we should wrap them up and go to the park. I'll have to suggest that. I have to wrap up though as I hate the cold! lol. Don't think our DCs will mind that much tbh.