to want to ask dd's friend's Mum whether her dd wrote F**k on my dd's Club Penguin page?

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My dd (9) was at her new friend's (dd has just changed school) house last week and after playing on Club Penguin came home without logging herself out. The next day when she tried to go on it again she found herself 'banned' for 24 hours.

Being baffled by this my dh and I investigated and found that someone had written 'Fuck' on her page just after she had left her new friends house.

Now I am extremely worried that it was her friend who has done this. Dd did say she told other people in her new class her password so it could have been one of them.

My first instinct is to go to talk to the friend whose house she was at's Mum, or speak to the head of the school about it, but I don't want to make life any more difficult than it already is for dd.

What would you do in this situation?
Any advice or thoughts would be very gratefully received.

Move on, change her password and let it be a salutary lesson for your dd in not revealing her passwords to anyone. There is no way of proving that it was her friend who logged on and if you speak to her mother you will only antagonise her. If I was in her position, I might be horrified to think that my dc had done that but without a shred of evidence to go on, I wouldn't even want to approach it with them.

I would also leave it. It could have been anyone.

Certainly don't mention it to the Head.

I am afraid, that with no evidence, you have to just move on from it. And do drill it into your DD that passwords are really not meant to be shared.

I wouldnt do anything, it might not have been new friend and then could cause future problems.
Thnk DD need advice about internet use.

[shrug] DS2 (8) got banned for allegedly typing "fuck off arsehole". I know it wasn't him because a) he'd asked me to find out why he'd been banned and b) it was spelt correctly.

He learnt a valuable lesson about letting others know his password.

why on earth would you involve the school???

OK annh, cornsilk and Nick, I think you are probably right to move on.

However, why not mention it to the head? He could possibly take the opportunity to talk to the school about internet security and cyber bullying?

Maybe I am overreacting.

lol at Soupdragon knowing it wasn't her ds as it had been spelt correctly!

My DS did get banned for typing 'shit' and it WAS him.
I went ballistic.
( But did also inwardly chuckle)

It's not cyber bullying though, is it? It was simply a child thinking they were funny and/or clever. It wasn't malicious against your DD. And internet security is not a problem either - your DD told people her password. See it as a harmless little lesson for DD.

Overreacting rather than BU. Don't worry!

It's nothing to do with the school!!

Alot worse than this will be happening ass your de approaches teenage years. You need to pick your battles carefully.

You cannot involve the school. They are 9 and it was one little swear word. They have probabl known of it for years and are now getting to the age where they know it's a big no no, therefore using it is funny / risky. Ah just forget about it.

Get over it and teach your child some internet security which in the long term could be far more serious.

Shit I type Fuck all the time. It isn't that big of a deal. Just tell your DD not to give out her passwords in the future.