Namechanged for privacy but just wanted to post about what happened today because I do feel really encouraged about it.
Dd came home and told me she has a boyfriend - in Year 7, very cute, hugging, absolutely horrified at the idea of snogging, he sounds brighth and in to the same things as her - all good.
So we had a nice chat about it and then closed the subject and it wasn't till about an hour later that I realised I would NEVER have told my mother that sort of thing. My mother and I have a perfectly good relationship but not that sort of relationship where I could tell her something and she not judge me and I've always feared replicating that with my daughters. I don't want to let them down by making something that happens to them all about me and how I view it, it should be all about them. So anyway I feel really encouraged that dd wanted to tell me about this, that telling me about this little casual thing is a sign that she trusts me, that we can do things together not alone. There were quite a lot of things I didn't tell my parents and I thought that was normal. (Not really bad things btw) But as I get older I start to think actually there was quite a lot about that that wasn't the most normal healthy thing and I want to be different. Today it feels like maybe I am a bit, like I'm not compelled to parent in the way I was parented, and that feels good, So AIBU to think that?