To think that the substitute teacher was wrong?

[WantTohide]

Just back from picking up DS from school.

His regular teacher was off sick, so Substitute teacher I have never met is on today.

All parents stand around the exit doors waiting for thie kid to come forward. The teacher was asking each parent who they were here for and giving them the correct child.

I stepped up and she asked me who I was after - I said DS - she looks at me and says "and you would be?" and i say i'm his Mum. She looks me up and down and says that I cant be his Mum as I am too young. I say thanks for the compliment but I am his Mum and I need to get going because its going to start raining and we have to walk up the road.

She still says I am too young to be Ds's Mum, so I ask her to bring him out and ask him herself. She refuses, saying that I will have to wait til everyone else has left so she can go get headmaster and confirm I am his Mother.

So I had to wait 10mins while she unloaded all the rest of the class. DS wanders over to her and says "Miss, I can see my Mummy over there" She seems to be unable to hear him or is ignoring him and goes off to fetch the headmaster.

I then have to wait another 10mins(it is now raining)before she comes back with headmaster.

He takes one look at me and confirms that I am indeed Ds's Mum.

Then she hands him over without apology or a goodbye.

I understand ithe safety issue with allowing children to go with people you dont know etc and needing to check them out. But she seemed to single me out from everypne else and all because she thought I was too young to be DS's Mum.

AIBU to think that she was wrong for the way she handled the situation?

BTW - DS is 4 and I am 24 (and I don't think I look very young)

I would compain and strongly advise that they have other methods in place for handing over children at the end of the day if the teacher is not available.
On the few occasions DD's nursery teacher has been off (she's 3.8) one of teh TA's has been at the door to hand over the children, why wasn't one of them with the supply teacher?
Also, all the parents know each other, so surely she could have checked with one of them if they were all older and wrinklier able to take their DC's.

I am with dilemma, DD1 would have had hysterics if she had not been allowed to leave with me.

sounds very odd. maybe she's been on a training course and is suffering from a little learning being a dangerous thing syndrome.

I'd be very pissed off in your shoes and would write a stern letter to the head.

"a little learning being a dangerous thing syndrome." LOL at the idea of a teacher suffering from this Edam.

No, I meant the way some people go on training courses and come back convinced they are experts in X even though they've just spent one day learning some very, very basic information. There are occasionally some daft teachers (and daft police officers/doctors/whatever) who think 'ooh, I know how to handle e.g. releasing children to parents I don't know' when they really don't have a clue. As I suspect happened here.

I went on a training course once where they taught us how to do gantt charts (sp?) but I don't hire myself out as a project manager!

I think this was exceptionally rude. Would she have thought it ok to accuse an older parent of being too old?????

I wonder, if she's so lacking in basic common sense, how are her people skills in the classroom. If someone treated me like this I would expect them to be working in airport security, not with small children.