To expect a birthday card, not a bloody e-card

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from one of my best friends?

It's my birthday today. I have 3 very close friends in the UK (I"m in Oz). One of them sent me a card, it arrived last week.

One friend sent nothing (but she didn't bother last year either).

One of them sent an e-card which arrived a few mins ago.

E-cards, to me are a "shit, I forgot the birthday so here is a half arsed attempt to make up for it".

Way to make me feel totally left out and a million miles from my friends, guys.

So, AIBU to expect a birthday card?

Sorry OP but you sound v ungrateful to me. Your friend remembered and acknowledged your birthday in HER way. Just cos you don't like it is your look out not hers.

There's nothing to say she forgot. It takes time to choose and create an e-card, you really have too look through (hundreds) of designs and usually write a message etc too. She's made an effort and you're dissing her.

Happy Birthday anyway

YANBU at all.,. but i can beat this one...

me and the dc got ecards from my mum last year who lives a whole 20 mins away!

Mm, as a fellow expat I do share your sentiment, to some extent.

I have one friend who has always sent e-cards, and I know that it's what she does and I have no problem with that. Always well thought out etc etc....

I have also had them from people who at other times have sent cards, and I nkow they forgot/didn't get around to it and it makes me feel a little unloved, but you know what? I'm worse at it than they are.

Finally my mum does it and I get really upset, because I know she would be upset if I didn't remember to send her a present, let alone a snail mail card....

This year one of my closest friends forgot, and I didn't mind in teh slightest (small matter of new twins in the family among other htings). We had spoken only a week before and she hadn't mentioned so I knew she had forgotten. My other closest friend sent me the most lovely package with little bits and bobs, and kind words and it left me in tears of homesickness and gratitude that I was still that important to her.

YANBU that it made you feel like this, but maybe over time you will start to feel differently.

PS I didn't choose to move to the other side of the world btw, so that might make a difference in their perceptions

Unless she knows how desperately you love real cards then YABU.

YABU to expect a card. I think your friend was thoughtful actually - at least she remembered.

Anyway, Happy Birthday. I hope you're enjoying your day?