To not care that I've lost my Mojo

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Two good friends from pre-DC life have invited me out for a Saturday night out, dinner, drinks, dancing, cocktails etc etc. In my old life this was a regular night and we'd stay at my friends v. swanky single city girl flat then stagger to a little bistro for hangover brunch the next morning and have a really brilliant time.

I initially refused as didn't feel I could leave DH and kids for the night so we've changed the plan to my home city and then I get taxi home.

HOWEVER,

The very thought is filling me with dread
-I'm too old to be out on a Saturday
-Have nothing that my post-pregancy body will fit into (2 DC in 2 years yikes!)
-Haven't had my hair cut and coloured since February
-I don't drink anymore so one glass of wine will send me under the table
-I can't really afford it as now SAHM and 2 friends both have v.v. good full time jobs
-I'm more comfortable on the sofa in my pyjamas on a Saturday night watching dancing, I've no confidence to be out with all the bright young things
-It's going to be cold and raining and getting the train there and taxi home and I now only own a mum-fleece and woolly hat!!
-I've no shoes!!!

My friends have been so sweet to really make the effort to invite me and accommodate the arrangements for me, but I feel like making a feeble excuse and not going.

Should I stay in or should I go?? Any thoughts please???

To be honest I'd give it a miss, I've grown out of all that stuff

Wowzers, this is very motivational stuff.

Will drag my lazy, lardy bum off the sofa and get me and my goosebumps out on the town!

Excellent advice thanks all.

God Lapsedrunner how depressing. I hope I never get so old I grow out of having a laugh with my friends.

You will love it! Get your hair done, beg borrow some clothes and have a laugh! Embrace the hangover. It's good for the soul to not be in mum mode once in a while and I will never ever get bored of it.

another way of seeing if you can get your hair coloured and it not costing the earth is if you have a local college with a hairdressing training side - they normally have the general public going and paying a fraction of the cost as the girls are training (under supervision)

I agree with everything said

you need to go out and get back in touch with fun laughing girl you because its keeping in touch with these parts of ourselves that keep us mums going on full pilot. You need time out to remember you and say hi to you just as much as your mates do.

Yes you will feel a little strange and at a loss about what to speak of but it will pass and you will find yourself relaxing and having a laugh! Its natural to feel disconnected to your old life but it doesnt mean you have to be disconnected to you!

Go and we will be here to hear all about it!
I feel very excited for you!

Thanks for the advice. Have taken the night out by the horns and booked the taxi so I HAVE to go!!

Have been analysing the wardrobe situation. I have a black sleeveless top with like a chiffony layer over the top which has green embroidery and then a green ribbon that goes round my ribcage - a bit empireline if that makes sense!!! My arms aren't too bad so might go with that and jeans - but will that work with my boots??

Alternatively I have a black skirt - quite stretchy so forgiving. A black short-sleeved shirt with a black ribbon around the midrif but that might accentuate the post-pregnancy pouch??? Have some black shoes with smallish heel that I can actually stand up in - not sure come the small hours and a few cocktails later. Have noticed that all my clothes seem to be black. Where is Gok to help me???

The hair isn't good, tried a couple of places and no appointments at short notice, going to put it up I think... Trying not to look too Dynasty, so might just wash and dry it straight... yikes!!!!

Thanks for all your lovely suggestions, really has inspired me to get my lardy butt off the sofa!!!

p.s despite not getting hair appointment for my night out have been inspired to book one for a few weeks time. No plans to be out, but hey I will look nice while I sprawl out watching strictly!!! My DH will go crazy at my indulgement!!!

Go buy yourself a new outfit and wear your hair pinned up then no one will see the colour and you won't need much money you will be drunk after the first glass .

Ask dp to call two hours in and if you are bored you can tell your friends dp cant settle the kids or something and go back home.

I know how you feel,I am dreading my 3 absolute must Xmas nights out. They are almost back to back so i won't even be able to wear the same outfit back to back.

Since I had my DD I go to the same hairdresser but I switched from a wash & blow dry to just a wet cut. It almost halved the price. Colour at home too. Hate it but needs must.

Just wanted to say good luck for tonight. Glad you've booked in for a haircut - after a couple of years of spending very little on my hair and consequently coming out of various local cheap hairdressers in tears, I bit the bullet and now shell out a decent amount for a cut that makes me feel fab. Worth every penny.

The first outfit sounds great but go with whatever you feel best in. I sense your mojo is creeping back... have fun.