to not allow DS1 (6.5) to 'play out'?

[colditz]

Ds1 is extremely pissed off with me today. Some friends of his from school came calling for him, asking him if he wanted to 'play out'.

I live on a rough but safe estate, and all the children who called live within shouting distance of my house. But I'm not sure I can trust Ds1 out of my sight. I don't entirely trust himnot to do something unpredictable and silly/dangerous.

I have explained to himthat it's not that I don't trust him (although this is a lie), it's that I don't trust some other people, and when he is older he will be more able to judge whether or not someone is trustworthy.

I don't know if I've done the right thing. He's very pissed off about it.

I must also add that he's being assessed by CAMHS for a few behavioral things, impulsivity being one of them. But I still don't know if I've been too neurotic.

Sounds like you did the right thing. My DD is similar age and she played out for the first time last weekend with her friend across the road. They had strict instructions not to cross any roads (thereby limiting their movements).
It was a nerve wracking time. From your description it sound like your ds is not qute ready yet.