I have always tried to be a good friend

[petalsinthewind]

a old friend of mine keeps cancelling on me and always says it becuase of my children that we cant come over last minute which she organised as my little girl will interupt sleep time for her son.
The other friend lives near me I have only known her a while i couldn't attend her party as my children were poorley and so I cancelled and explained why since then she has avoided me even though I have invited her over.
Is it me am i unresonsible or should i find some new friends, one of these friends is meant to be a bridemaid when I get married the way its going none of them will be apart from best friend who I dont see much but is on the phone if we need each other .
One of my friends said i get to involved but I want to help where i can what do you think.I guess I have my kids and Dh although he works long hours what would you do? please advice me.

There must be more to it, surely? Or you are a bit insecure and reading too much into things. Re the second friend - if you haven't known her long it's possible she sees your friendship as more casual than you do, and doesn't mean anything by not coming over, but is just busy. The first friend sounds like she doesn't want the hassle of taking her DD somewhere else to sleep - a bit wussy but some DCs are awful sleepers and sometimes it's not worth the bother.

I'm not sure how to advise though. Maybe chill out and try to meet some more people?

Friends are often a tricky one. 2 (now ex) friends of mine were bridesmaids and I regret it now as I stopped speaking to them soon after the wedding. Basically I had to give up work through illness and they were never there for me but when they had a problem I was all "come around and talk". When they got over their problems I wouldn't see them again for months. I am always a pretty good friend I think and I get walker over quite a lot, or have been in the past. Luckily I have now made friends who I really like and I think will be friends for life through toddler groups.

I don't really have (what I call true) friends from school or when I used to work now. My friend from school who I was best friends with on and off through school (she would find someone new then bugger off and come back when she was bored and I always let her) came up recently. She was only here for an hour after I hadn't seen her for a year, then spent the whole time texting on her phone. Suddenly she announed that she ws being picked up and left! I have got to the point where I can't be bothered with 'friends' like this and I am gonna stick to the ones that actually bother as well. I find them draining and I can't be bothered anymore! HTH.