To think that toast, yoghurt and banana is a perfectly adequate breakfast for an 8 month old?

[TAFKAAAAAARGHtheUrbanDryad]

And the HV is talking shite? (shocker, I know!)

tafka... be very wary about directly standing up to the hv.i did and managed to get on the list of 'parents who need to be kept a close eye on'. i'm meant to be phoning them weekly with updates. i haven't phoned once. purely because its none of their business and also, because i was intrigued on how long it would take them to realise i wasn't doing weekly reports. That was a few months ago now and not a single one of them has contacted me

oh and to answer your question.. yes, she's talking shite!

Oh for goodness sake, there is calcuim in the yoghurt, what on earth is she talking about?

I think I would have to told her that she is clearly deranged.

HV's are a funny bunch, aren't they

my DS was only just sitting at 8mo which she expressed concern about because she couldn't tick the checkbox at his 8mo check.

8mo check was the last time I saw her - had a letter about his 2year check which I'll go to, but only because we'll get some bookstart books

i think most hv talk shite. most of them get there imformation from text books and not real life experiences. they have caused me to worry about things i thought i didnt need to worry about. i now ignore ignore ignore. the best advice i have ever had is off mumsnet. the mums on hear have given me some fantastic ideas and advice and it has actually worked.

What a nutter! I have steadfastly avoided HV's with my DD.

They used to stress me out so much with DS that now I"m older and slightly wiser I realised that theirs was one kind of help I could do without!

I wish my 9 month old would eat that for breakfast she is a very fussy eater!she might manage the yoghurt and banana but I would have the toast spat back at me lol

If she is worried about calcium you can get it prescribed for your dd from the GP. My DS couldn't have dairy for the first 15 months of his life and he had a calcium supplement. Your HV is talking out of her back passage.

rofl at 'back passage'

Er your dd's nursing 2 hourly and hv's worried about calcium?! Do you produce calcium free milk then?!!

I always nod smile and agree with my hv, make a funny comment or two, wave her off and get on with doing whatever I would have done anyway. I learnt not to ever express any kind of concern about the dc because it would get blown out of all proportion. If I had concerns I went to the GP.

your hv is crazy that sounds like a great breakfast and there is calcium in the yoghurt, as well as im sure you don't forbid her from drinking milk at other times. i think baby packet cereals are much less appealing for a baby than what you've given her

You obviously don't realise that calcium can ONLY be ingested before 9.00 in the morning. Any later than this and it's wasted.

imovethestars.... you can get the bookstart books from your local library so no need to see hv for them oh and you can get them from 18mths up so no need to wait til 2yrs. You might need to show them your red book but i didn't even do that

Ooh miamla, I didn't realise you were a danger parent I must warn the other August mums at once!

Toast, yoghurt and banana is the sort of breakfast regularly eaten in our house by all. OP, your HV is talking shite.

thanks for your support there Cyteen!

Mine and my dhs approach with such appointments is not nod, smile, agree and get out. We've also discovered they are in general quite a sexist bunch, so if dh attends the appoinmentn not me there are always less questions as if they assume that there's no way a mere father would even know what the dds eat for breakfast etc. Which is daft cos obviously if he's involved enough to take them in for the check-up he probably knows what they eat if they sleep thru etc, but there you are. (the last gem dh got told was to start weaning dd aged 4 months as she's on the 90th percentile for height/weight and such a big baby needs more food than breastmillk. Which does rather beg the question of how she grew so well but there you go)

Like Milkmade I just smiled and nodded. I think the problem is a lot of them did their training in the 1970's and refuse to accept the world has moved on since then. Just agree with absolutely everything they say and then carry on regardless.

miamla - hurrah, thank you!

Also, our local library is directly opposite a shiny new shopping centre. Two birds with one stone, and no chat with the irritating opinionated bitch Health Visitor.

imovethestars... you're very welcome! i'm always happy to help with tactics to avoid having to see hvs!

i hope you realise of course that it would be rude not to just pop into the shopping centre for a nice coffee at least

HV, if you're reading this - stop bloody chatting and actually LISTEN to people for a change.

Can someone call a doctor please? I'm worried that my yogurt/fruit/toast-breakfasting, vegetarian DDs might have weak legs!

In fact, they must have, as at 12 and 14 they have great difficulty walking to the kitchen from the dining room with a dirty plate and huge problems walking to the linen basket with dirty clothes. Other than that they are in very rude health and have been all their lives.

Weak legs indeed! Pah!

When I had my now 14 yo I had just one HV meeting. Unamused at the way I was patronised I declined all further contact and had none at any point when I had DD2 either. Its interesting to see here that one mother here has been put on a "watch list" for standing up to her HV. Big Brother is surely watching you.

fab breakfast imho

stupid hv!!!

But that's DS's (aged 13 months) favourite breakfast!

It's funny because I seemed to remember there being 2 other main meals per day in addition to breakfast.

Strange woman.

Jesus wept. honestly, that sounds like a great breakfast. HV told me once to keep an eye on DD's legs cos she started walking at 11mths. HV thought her legs mightn't be strong enough to support DD.

My 13 month old has that most days. We give him "human porridge" to quote whomovedmychocolate's own barking mad HV some days as we're having it, with cream mixed in to compensate for low fat milk, but he's never been that keen tbh. Won't eat Plum baby porridge and hasn't since about 9 months.

Your HV is a loon. Crisps, and I might think she had a point. Fruit, dairy and carbs is a decent start to the day. We sometimes offer some apple or something as well, but seriously there are 2 more meals plus 2 snacks before bed, and at 8 months they can get most nutrition from milk, anyway, so wtf is her problem?

I agree about being careful about standing up to HV's. I refused to give ds formula (cause he didn't need it) and was reported to SS by my then HV. When I put a complaint about her in, she was suspended on full pay pending an enquiry then ushered back in quietly when they realised they didn't have enough staff to cover her work.