Mum insists on spending £50 on her grandchildren for Christmas and birthdays. It is extrememly generous of her, especially as she doesn't have a lot of money, - stepdad died a couple of years ago and she's now on her pension, but it's a pride thing with her to a degree - she wants to show she can spend this much (plus of course she loves the DCs to bits!).
However, DS is 2.9 and DD is 7mo. She wants me to tell her what to buy for them, but by the time we've got our gifts for them, as well as other relatives, I can't get to £50 off her with gift ideas - at 7mo, DD doesn't really need that much, and anyway, all of the stuff we had for DS as a baby is still in good condition. I'd much rather she spent £25 each on them and put £25 in their savings account, than fill the house with even more plastic just for the sake of spending the money. What do you think? Is this ok and sensible or money grabbing for the DCs and ungrateful? we're getting DS a wooden train track this year, which is £50, but we won't necessarily spend that much on them both each Christmas / birthday ourselves, and I don't want them to expect this much each birthday and Christmas - or expect more from us if this is what nana is buying them.