I introduced a friend to MN years ago. I read something a couple of days ago that caught my eye and realised it was her talking about me. She must have changed her name very recently - possibly so she could post this thing without me knowing - as I have not seen a post from this name before and I know what her previous name was which has now disappeared (because she told me what it was when she joined and we often chatted on here), and she obviously didn't want me to know it was about me, but on reading it I realised it was her (I'm not naming her or saying which thread as she may read this and be angry I am bringing this up and that then causes more issues) and equally I have changed my name in case she knows my last one.
I can deal with what she wrote and may well address it with her at some point, but then I am frightened she will think I was snooping and make what is already an obviously damaged friendship even worse.
I just want to know if anyone on here has had a similar experience and how they dealt with it.
I guess I should be releived she aired her views on here and not through mutual friends, but she said some extremely hurtful things and I kind of wish she had just come to me in the first place.
I can't bring it up with her as an aside on a casual basis as she will know I saw her post. I am also worried other people we know who may know the background would have also cottoned on it was about me.
There are obviously issues in our friendship I knew nothing about until seeing her post. We hadn't chatted on here for a while, which at the time I put down to her new job. I am even thinking of leaving MN altother in case I stumble on anything more or even look for her now I know she is talking about me on here.
It isn't even as if I disagree with what she said, but she hasn't come to me with her issues and not sure how to fix things unless she does but I just don't know what to think or how to go about it.
Don't tell me our friendship is doomed - I am sure it isn't, its just hit a bump, but it is still hurtful to read and have been pondering for a couple of days now.
What would you do?