to say no children are invited?

[MadreInglese]

I'm celebrating a big birthday next month and will be going out on my actual birthday (midweek) for a nice meal with DP & DD, and then we're having a boozy houseparty the following weekend, which coincides with DD being away at a sleepover. With no DD we decided to make it adults only so we can get nicely trollied without worrying about any children (will have enough of a job worrying about the drunk adults lol!). I haven't really done invites but emailed everyone the details, stating "adults only" a couple of times

My aunt emailed back to ask if the invite included my 6 year old cousin . I replied that it didn't because it was adults only. She is now ranting to all the rest of the family about how unfair it is that she can't come because it's no kids (she has plenty of people who can and do babysit), and she would never exclude children from a family occasion, blah blah blah. My grandma rang my mother to see if 'anything could be done about it' FFS

If ever I've organised any kind of do it's ALWAYS included kids, I love having kids around, and I never really make a fuss of my birthday, but just for ONCE I want to relax on my birthday in my own house with my family and friends and a bottle of wine (or few).

AIBU?

Personally I would withdraw your Aunts invite, she can stay at home with her child, problem solved.

IMHO Children shouldn't be invited to Weddings either until they are at least 10 and then only if the venue is suitable for them.

YANBU, nobody gets a default invitation to other people's parties, be they evening or wedding.

Inviting is up to the inviter.

I agree with all posts here YDNBU at all, have a great night!! It's my 30th in 2 weeks and me and my sis are going to london for the night and getting a hotel, our children (3 altogether) will be with our parents while we relax and behave disgracefully have fun!

I had a joint 30th on Friday. We each have 2 children and decided early on to pay for babysitters and make our party child free.

Most of our friends have children and no one complained. In a few cases, one half of a couple stayed home to mind their children, but most were able to sort childcare.

A fabulous evening was had by all. You are not being unreasonable!

YANBU if her dh doesnt like parties why cant she just leave her kid with him, where is the problem?? she is being really OTT to complain about it. Shouldnt kids be in bed in the evening anyway?

YANBU! What a shame if she can't come

Ds was once 'invited' to a party with us. It was a nightmare keeping an eye on him. (He was about 3.) He scooted off, downed a large glass of orange juice (thank god it was only OJ!) and was sick everywhere. YADNBU

YANBU!

Why don't some people want to go to social things without their dc too? I don't get it.

YANBU at all and I bet most of the adults there will thank you for arranging some child-free time for you all.

It would only BU if the child was a babe in arms so the mother really couldn't come without it.

YANBU but make sure you stick to your guns! cannot understand why people want to do stuff with their kids all the time either..

Agree with jybay you're only BU if it was a bf baby.

YANBU its your party and you cant do what you want. Its going to be unsuitable for kids as its a boozy piss up, your aunty should arrange childcare or not come at all if not

YANBU. I expect everyone will welcome a child-free evening, and you have given plenty of notice to allow babysitters to be arranged.

YANBU

Tell them that as unfortunately your dd will not be there, there will be no-one and nothing for your niece to do. However if your aunt can't come due to babysitting problems, then you will understand

PS if you are one short I will come-without children

YDNBU. Is your aunt generally a self-obsessed whiner? Because she certainly sounds like one.
I do ask, sometimes, if events are child-friendly, but only when it isn't clear (eg I know the hosts have DC or it's a daytime event) and then if DS isn;t invited I either make arrangements for his dad or grandparents to look after him, or politely decline the invite.