really really beyond peeved

[CurtainTwitcher]

am I over reacting?
husband[not dear now] took DS just turned 6 to nottingham to watch the wrestling yesterday. Anyways they come home at 11pm and H is running through the day where he gets the point of telling me that he left ds alone while he went to buy hotdogs. I am fecking seething over this and have actually kicked h out last night as he couldnt see what he had done wrong until I pointed out would he have left his car keys sitting on the seat to which he replied no..so of course I replied why the feck would you leave our son then!!! Its not like he had all the kids[we have 3 others] with him etc it was just him and ds all he had to do was take him with him. I havent seen or spoken to h since last night and to be honest I really dont want to. I am completely beyond angry at his irresponsible parenting

he shouldn't have left him. But I do think that all the talk of "it only takes a second to abduct a child/look what happened to James bulger," etc are a little hysterical. I would be more concerned at him wandering off and not being able to find me/me be able to find him than abduction.

But I think yabu to throw him out. What if he doesn't come back?

He will come back, he has tried to phone this morning but will speak to him later.

I wasnt particularly thinking about abduction I was more of the mindset of fire alarms, H taking longer than expected, my 6yr old deciding to go and look for daddy

Still think youve over reacted, you could be sat at home expecting a contrite hubby possibly armed with flowers and chocolates, but now you are going to have to expect a pissed off and confused hubby who now cant get past the fact you chucked him out over this. Giving him the moral high ground when it really should be yours and he should be grovelling for a week.

any updates, OP

have you had chat with him ?

YANBU to be annoyed, but also YABU to let a 6yo go to a wrestling match and come home at 11pm on a sunday night.

YANBU

He shouldn't have left him and what his reason for doing so and why did he tell you?

Bump

per it was the only thing DS wanted for his birthday present. As for coming home at 11pm, firstly they were supposed to be back by 9pm but traffic was really bad and secondly he was in pjs so actually slept in the car from 8pm until he came home when he was put straight into bed.

H is home but mostly because I ended up in hospital with DD1 last night as she is chronic asthmatic so we havent actually had a chance to talk as I only got home at 8am and he took DS to school at 8.30am. Ironically it is also our wedding anniversary today so will try to chat at some point later

oh do please try and chat, i hope your wee lass is better soon. Time to move on, i think he gets the message about how mad you were and will probably never offer to take the children out alone again! Have a good aniversary - cook him a lovely dinner, have a bottle of wine - then he owes you BIG TIME!!

Yes you overreacted. If my DH reacted like that to something I had done I'd be furious and not sure I'd be coming home! But hey it's done. FWIW I think you both need to calm down and apologise. People are allowed to make mistakes.

Gawd knows why anyone would want to take a 6yr old to wrestling though.

My DH did something similar, he took the youngest ds to his swimming lesson on a saturday morning, because his brother age 7 didn't want to go in he left him colouring in the car.
My ds dropped this into the conversation later in the evening near bedtime and I went absolutely mental!!!!
Me:'what do you mean you were in the car'
DH:'I locked the door'
Me: What do you mean he was left in a locked car'
DH:'I could see the car'
Me:'F**k off'
I was livid but he really didn't get the problem, he couldn't see the car as he had to go and dry my ds after his lesson.
He won't be doing it again, the threat of sending him to his mother's sorted that,lol.

What drives me nuts is my dh only learns how to look after the kids when he does something stupid, he's a great dad with little common sense.