not to buy my 3-yr-old high heels?

[MaMight]

Dd's sole mission in life is to own a pair of high heels. She is three and a half.

Obviously I have said no.

She is being more persistant about this than anything ever before in her little life.

I am still saying no.

Her best friend at nursery is allowed to wear high heels most days.

Still no.

Dd wondered if she could have some of those dressing up ones, just for playing pretend.

I said no because I think life will then be a constant battle not to let her wear them daily and she will forever try and wear them out of the house.

I have explained why she can't have some (because the bones in her feet are soft and high heels will hurt them and I'm her mummy and it is my job to care about the precious bones in her feet, so no. And no, I don't know anything about Lucy at nursery's soft bones or what her mummy thinks, my only concern is with your feet dd )

Some people have said a pair of dressing up heels wouldn't hurt.

She wants them more than anything else in the world.

I still think no!

AIBU?

I assume that all these horrible outcomes are from wearing proper heels instead of ordinary shoes, not wearing clippetty cloppetty dressing up shoes for play?

there is no way in the world a 3 yr old wears high heels to nursery every day

our nursery banned flip flops because the children couldn't run in them

buy some pretend ones for dressing up in the house

Dressing up. Only at home. For a limited time, which you control, = o.k.
Outside. To nursery. At 3 and a half. Please no. This is awful. What must the bf's mum be thinking. frightening !!!

Agree with mutt. good parenting means saying no. especially to little princess's !

Out of interest, where does one buy proper heels for a 3 year old? I've never seen any on the highstreet.

these are lovely for playing or parties at xmas

You can buy heeled shoes very easily if your DD has big enough feet at 3. My DD is a size 11 at the grand old age of 3.4 and I could walk into Next, Brantano, Asda etc and buy her a pair of heeled shoes.

I could buy her theseat the age of 2 and half when she was a size 9.

If I was going for the pure trash look I could get some black sparkly Bratz 2 inch heels from Brantano when she the same age.

Actually I'm not in UK. Where I live, high heels for 3-yr-olds are freely availably in the local supermarket. Much like Ruby and NightShoe's links.

But then where I live every grocery store, corner store and petrol station stocks a wide range of baby and child cologne!

I did try and fob her off with the most revoltingly ott pink sparkly sequined flat shoes. No dice.

She does wear mine. In fact our neighbours politely asked if I could perhaps put them on a high shelf so she didn't wake them up clopping about in the mornings .

I suppose I am a bit conflicted. If she found a pair of these in her stocking this Christmas she would be the happiest little girl in the world. The temptation to make your child so thrilled is hard to resist!

But then... (a) they are bad for her feet. And they are, aren't they? and (b) isn't it sort of a good thing not to get everything you want? It's not as if she will only get a dusty potato in her stocking. There will be plenty of sparkly crap, just not 'noisy shoes' as she calls them.

It's not obligatory to have these shoes, no matter how much she might want them. My mum made it clear that heels for children were a Very Bad Thing, so I was given ballet slippers/pumps instead, certainly at this age!

Some things are your decision to make, as mum, imo.

Some lovely sparkly monsoon slippers would be just as lovely....

ok, lots of people think they're ok for dressing up but that doesn't mean you're wrong if you don't.

It also means that she can still have something to look forward to. Heels are for much later childhood imo and will be a thrill then too!

Agree with posters who say to buy dressing up 'clack' shoes. The novelty will wear off soon enough.