to hope my sister's baby is a boy

[wearyweedy]

my sister and I have been compared all our lives by our parents and my sister continues the tradition. I think and hope that I don't. She is 'the pretty one', I am 'the clever one'. We are both pregnant and my baby is a girl. My sister will find out what sex her baby is this week and I'm very worried about it being a girl and the whole miserable cycle continuing with my poor little daughter. AIBU? or how can I prevent my daughter being compared to hers?

I would use it to stop comparing. Do not take part. I would get one standard reply such as 'DCs are all different', a witty one would be better if you can think of it,and then never get drawn in. Just trot it out calmly and change the subject.

Wearyweedy - OMG your post could have been written for me - I am in the exact same position! My sis announced she was PG two weeks ago and I graciously mustered a congratulatory hug but afterwards felt so angry at her for stealing my thunder (i am due to give birth in 5 weeks!) We have been constantly compared all our lives too... me as the clever one and her as the pretty one and when I mentioned my feelings to my parents they shouted at me for being so unreasonable saying that they were highly ashamed of the way I have reacted. I'm not sure if it's pregnancy hormones but I keep having moments of anger towards my sister, followed by guilt that i'm being some kind of irrational cow! But it's reassuring that there are others out there in the same boat. I too, am hoping that the babies will be different sexes...

Opt out-they can't compare if you refuse to get involved! Don't be manipulated into playing the game. If you have had it all your life, now would be the time to stop.

Fingers crossed for you too Katarina.
I wonder if the sisters feel this too. I'm not going to ask mine.