In thinkking that Partner is a selfish, ignorant arsewipe?

[mamadiva]

So bloody right now and need to rant!

DP (right now the D in that stands for dickhead ) told 3.5YO DS this morning that we would all go to the fireworks tonight so DS went for a sleep about 2 hours ago as it is on so late blah blah anyway DP went to his mates house at about 2pm to watch the football, I phoned him about 15 minutes ago to ask what was happening and this is how the convo went:

Me: So what's happening are you coming back over and we will head up or are you meeting us along the way?
DP: Well (friend's wife) is going to give us (meaning herself, her DP and their DD) to save us walking cause it's a bit cold
Me: Right so me and DS will just walk up in the cold ourselves in the dark and meet you there
DP: Well if you don't mind, but right enough you won't see us cause we will be there early and near the front and it'll be too crowded so I would'nt bother about that
Me: Well yes I do mind because it's a 30 minute walk, it's dark and cold and noone else I know will be going
DP: Well if that's how you want to be don't fucking go then but we are taking friend's DD anyway

He then hung up and turned phone off!

I am absolutely fuming and now I don't want to go because I hate being out alone in the dark never mind with DS and we need to alk through a quiet industrial estate which is creepy enough during the day! DP knows this yet it's fine for us but it's too fecking cold to walk with friend's DD! I feel terrible that DS is'nt getting to go now

What the hell IK

Id get a taxi and make it known how very angry you are with him, a-hole

Well, if I was driving, it would be women & children in the car, men walking!

Sorry ignore that last question - am reading into your relationship more than was asked for.

LOL, he has just phoned saying he did'nt hang up, he was phoning from friends house to say his battery ran out and he has just won £80 at bookies so I have £50 of it for some reason , he is going to walk over here and we are going up to park to meet friend and wife then he is going back to their house (as he does every saturday) and I will get a taxi home.

Interrupting kid, I'm not sure if you are reading the right thread... and am thinking your name is probably appropriate to your person no?!

He is not having an affair with friend's wife who I know for a fact is with at the moment and his friend obviously because we have been there many a night and he goes there every saturday as this is his only mate here so we have no trust issues at all.

If it was me id turn my phone off also and stay in, then maybe your dp will feel guilty and realise what a p**ck hes been!!

Glad everythings OK
Enjoy the fireworks!

MamaD, am so pleased it has turned out like this! Result about the 50 quid too

Hope you all have a lovely evening.

Unacceptable him swearing at you and letting your DS down like that
He also needs the riot act reading over turning his phone off. It takes seconds for something to happen and you to need him and its unacceptable for him to not have his phone on.

ahhhhhhh dont you just love a happy ending to AIBU
enjoy the fireworks , x

Glad that´s sorted!

I just couldn´t get the "you won´t see us" bit-surely he would have met you at a specific place?

Well, all OK then!

Have a nice night.

Oh loads of x posts

I go out every 2nd Friday and go out once a week with my mum too so it's a 2 way thing.

DP is 24 and I think he just has too grow up abit sometimes.

Should also mention that friends wife is a bit on the erm... simple side (no common sense whst so ever) she kindly gave me and DS a lift to hospital one night at 8pm knowing I had no purse or anything she left us there and never came back because she assumed we'd just walk DS had his PJ's and slippers on and again it was a 45 minute walk... DUH! LOL

Simple?

So now he's given you £50 it's ok that he swore at you ? What are you a hooker, no scrub that they wouldn't stand for that nonsense. I'd be having serious words later on.
Enjoy the fireworks.

OP, your DP goes there every Saturday? Why not both come to your house?

I'm glad you'll have the night you had planned but can't help feeling your DP needs a reality check, why isn't his best friend's wife a friend of yours? Seems like he has kept his 'single'life rather separate from your life as a couple. The way he spoke to you is dreadful....take it from me that will never improve, only gets worse.

agree with posieparker - you need to let him know that the way he spoke to you was wrong & that you wont stand for it or this will become a regular occurrence . enjoy the fireworks together as a family & maybe tomorrow mention this to him .

OMG. He sounds like he doesn't give a damn about you or the child. What a prick.

Do you know where he mate lives? I would be getting a taxi round there and demanding to go in the car. He and his mate can walk.

And he goes out on the piss every Saturday night? what about you?

I would be seriously considering my position if I were you.

it is still odd and the idea of paying you off is even odder

Have a good night, hope it stays fine for you

He swore at you but everything is ok now because you have £50

Right a few points to be re made me thinks...

No it's not okay that he swore at me but we both do that occassionally, it was'nt warranted in this situation granted but shit happens.

It was okay because he said he would come over here, which he did, and we would walk up to the fireworks together. Although we went and as soon as one went off DS nearly took a panic attack so we left and went to his mates house for a while but me and DS are just back as friend's wife gave us a lift back as DS and her DD were nackered.

DP has never really had a single life, well not as an adult we have been together since we were 14 and that was almost 9 years ago now! Friend's wife and me are just totally different people so we talk when we have to but I don't feel the need to have the same friend's as my DP

Oh and he also apologised for speaking to me like that apparently his mum was just off the phone doing his head in about us going there at christmas (she lives 100 miles away).

I go out every 2nd friday (my choice) and go ut once a week with my mum so it's not like I am grounded here, as I said we do enjoy having a life away from each other one night a week, we spend every night together otherwise so IMO it's a healthy deal for both of us

I understand- but you do take a risk posting a slagorama here! Glad all is well

LOLOLOL
I had v similar last night. DH was supposed to get back from work at 5.30 in order for us to leave at 5.45. Phone was off and no sign of him. (turned out battery was flat) Ended up going on own to meet friends there. I was v v v upset with him (how many family things do we get to go to???) Esp as I had offered to pick him up from work and he insisted on taking bus.

Ended up going to where he was so he could buy me bottle of wine and chocolate to take home while he went to pub which was original plan after fireworks anyway. But then he gave me £20 that he owed me plus £60 that I wasn't expecting so I let him off.

Glad it worked out ok for you too

Well, OP sounds like it's a situation both you and you DP are happy with and that's all that matters.