I won't bore you all with the full story but basically i have just gotten back together with DP after a 5 month split. Moved back in together in Sep and I feel that he is 'punishing' me for things going wrong before (despite the fact that he took full responsibility for our break up).
I feel that he is deliberately making my life difficult. He argues that black is white and NEVER seems to be on my side. It got so bad the other night that i broke down and told him how i was feeling and said he was hurting me again. He apologised and said he would try harder.
Now one of the things that we really argued about before the break up was household chores and his contribution i.e. he did feck all and believed that because i was outta work that i should have the house spick and span and still manage to feed/clothe/clean/entertain DS (1yo).
All i wanted from his was to do the dishes every night after I cooked the tea. Now that we are back living together, and even though we discussed this rationally and DP agreed he would do the dishes, things have slipped back to the way it was before. Last night, for example, my father was coming for tea and i had to rush home to do the previous night's dinner dishes before i could even begin preparing last night's dinner. Kinda embarassing to have your father walk into a house that reeks of the night before's chicken madras and garlic naan bread . But, I held my tongue and gently told DP that it wasn't very nice that i had to deal with that (waited til father had gone home).
So off i went to bed at 10pm, asking him to do dishes before i went (given up asking them to be done immediately after dinner). I woke at 1.45am this morning to find DP only just getting into bed. I made a comment like 'is it any wonder you're so bloody knackered all the time whenever you sit up to 2am playing computer games.' He said nothing and got into bed.
The reason i said this was because DP has to get up at 4.30am to be in work for 6am most mornings and is always complaining he is exhausted from the early mornings. Got up this morning and dishes were still in the sink. Today was a rare occasion where DP didn't start work to 8am, so he was there to give me a hand getting DS ready. As I asked him where something was, he didn't hear me, so i raised the volume of my voice and repeated the question. He had a huge go at me, saying that i treat him like a tennager and that i'm not his mother. I couldn't believe where it came from. I wasn't nagging, just repeating a question in a louder voice . He said he was angry at me for saying i had no sympathy for him being tired if he stayed up until 2am. It really hurt that he attacked me like this and i got a bit weepy again. I ended up leaving him to take DS to creche - see how he likes it having to walk away from a distressed child who knows you're leaving him there.
But i feel like he's making my life difficult again. I'm torn between anger and hurt and can see thigns going back down the same road that led to our breakup inthe first place.
My apologies that its really long winded - men are just so complicated