to get a full time job?

[meltedchocolate]

Hi. I have recently become a single mum. Before this happened i was applying for full time jobs. Now I don't know whether i should or not.

If i got a full time job we (me and my 13 month old DS) would have plenty of money and i could buy us things and we could rent our own place. If I do though i will only see him for an hour in the morning and an hour before his bed and on weekends for a while. I hate the idea of someone else raising him instead of me during the week but i also hate the idea of us having nothing for many years yet.

Thoughts would be really appreciated.

x

Thank you so much BM

I wonder if I could ask for that? I will have to check it out, but i need to find a job first.

i worked ft when a single mother to ds1 (now 11) I had to for financial reasons and I agree, he has not been harmed by it. tbh I would rather be at home now, that my kids are 11,7 and 4, because its much harder to replace the love, attention and care I can provide now. When they are very small, a loving substitute/nursery/childminder will be fine...

don't forget that whichever choice you make isn't set in stone - if it doesn't work, you can always reconsider and try something else.

good luck with whatever you do

I know you are right MrsD.

I will apply and try any job i get given out and if I am finding it too hard i will just leave it.

Melted
as I said its been a year to get sorted! But hosuework I try to do little and often so I dont have to do all at weekend, ditto for laundry, and I use alot ALOT of wipes for floor/loo/surfaces. For example when baby is in bath, wipe time! But housework is bane of my life. Its not easy and you are single Mum too. TBH I would consider having childcare for one extra hour per week, blitz the house then and when you pick up baby you can relax and play with them and not worry about the mess. sigh, its hard to be a woman

I worked out that with me working, I could afford (albeit with other sacrifices) for a cleaner once per week. That way, the house was properly clean and I didn't waste any precious time doing housework when it was my mummy time. I did still do laundry - but that is easy to fit around - ironing of an evening when baby in bed.

If you can't work out to get a cleaner, I'd second Porca's advice of little and often, that way you are on top of it all the time - even if you spend 30 mins of an evening after DC bed, it means you get to keep your precious time.