to think that it's unfair to accuse a woman of 'trapping' a man if he willingly had unprotected sex with her?

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Not my first post, have name changed, troll-seekers.
A close friend of mine recently told us that she conceived her DS by sleeping with an old boyfriend in the hope she'd get pregnant. He initiated the sex, said he didn't have a condom, she told him to 'be careful' as she wasn't on the pill, but he went ahead and came inside her, which led, miraculously to her DS. However, many of our mutual 'friends' have slagged her off for 'trapping him.' Surely, even if a woman secretly hopes she will get pregnant, she is NOT trapping a bloke if he initiates sex without giving a shit about contraception himself? AIBU?

Trapping would be sticking pins through a condom or telling him she WAS on the pill when she wasnt.

The moment she told him she wasnt on the pill and he chose to go ahead and have full, unprotected sex with her he was signing on the dotted line as agreeing to the possibility of a pregnancy occuring.

Both as bad as each other, IMO. He was irresponsible, and probably assumed she would take the MAP. She is out of order for using him for his sperm.

You mean having sex leads to babies?
YANBU

I don't see how she can blamed for any of this. Yes she should have told him she wanted to get pregnant. But he knew he didn't have a condom on and he knew that she wasn't on the pill.

Therefore he knew there was a chance she could get pregnant. Did he ask her to take the MAP?

Unless his parents haven't had the birds and bees talk with him yet, he is just as responsible for this as her. If not more so, he must have known he was going to come and did it anyway, regardless of the fact that she wasn't protected????

I also fail to see how any of this reflects upon their ability as parents. The comments about feeling sorry for the child etc imo are uncalled for and out of order.