to feel sad that ds thinks I should work more just to buy him more stuff.

[lunamoon2]

Hi

Am feeling pissed off and upset.

Today foiund out that ds (nearly 11) stole a length of ribbon(?).
Haven't taken it back to the shop as only found out late.
Anyway calmly explained all the reasons why this is wrong.
Asked ds why he had done it as he couldn't really be in need of some ribbon.
He told me that he did it because I never buy him anything "good".
Turns out by good he means games for his xbox etc.
He also said it was because when he asks for things I tell him to wait until his birthday which is next month.
I calmly explained to him that he cannot have everything he wants in life and that it is very important not to get into debt over such things.
Both dh and I work(myself school hours to fit in with the family- I also have 2 other children). I explained that I don't earn a lot etc and ds response was that I should get a better job even if this means working very long hours all the time.

I am uset as I gave up work to look after my family believing this was the best thing to do. Perhaps I would be better thought of if I worked 60 hours a week and shoved him in nursery every school holiday and weekends too.
On top of this he moans if I say he can go to either grandparents house so it seems I can't win.

Just wanted to write it down as I am quite annoyed by his attitude.

Also he isn't complaining about clothes/food or the amount spent on hobbies just it appears expensive games.

Thanks for hearing me out.

It is good to hear from like minded people who think that children should wait until birthday/Christmas for major items. I was beginning to think that I am abnormal making him wait for his birthday.

They just don't think about stuff luna which is probably a good thing.

DS only gets stuff from us on Christmas/birthdays there is a constant stream of small things from his besotten aunty and grandparents though.

I don't buy toys/DVDs/games outside of special occasions though.

Have you thought of sitting him down and showing him how much things actually cost? Like saying - minimum wage is £x. The cost of guitar lessons are £y, and you would have to work z number of hours to pay for one lesson.

He is a child .He has no comprehension of the benefits he is getting from you being at home for him - but he will when he is older.It is hurtful when they say things like that.My DS2 is very similar and will rant and rave about all the stuff we could have if I worked .

Paper round. Car washing.

If he wants the games, he can earn the money to pay for them.

I'd encourage him to earn his own money. The young lad about the same age over the road cleans cars every Saturday afternoon. He only charges £2 but the ten he cleans on the cul de sac means he would be half way towards a new game weekly. Just a bucket and a sponge needed each house provides the water and the washing liquid to clean their own car(s)