or more likely over sensitive - about Grandmother's wedding ring...

[Tillyscoutsmum]

Please be gentle with me - I'm not normally brave enough to venture on to AIBU and I am very hormonal.........

I was incredibly close to my paternal grandmother. She pretty much brought me up for the first few years of my life because my mother was unable to. She died when I was 8 years old.

I didn't know (or care tbh) but my dad had her wedding ring after she died. She wasn't a rich lady by any means so its a very thin 9ct gold band and worth next to nothing in monetary value.

I have just found out that my step mum has had a sort out of some of her old jewellery and sold it. I have no problem with this in principle - I've done the same with bits and bobs I don't wear any more and I realise now is a good time to do it as gold prices are favorable. However, my grandmother's wedding ring was included in the sort out. I believe she got about £10 for it

I know its nothing to do with me and my dad and step mum can do what they like with it, but if I'd have known, I'd have been more than happy to give them a bloody tenner for it . I just think the sentimental value far outweighs the monetary value.

FWIW, my dad and step mum aren't poor so didn't desperately need the money or anything.

So - AIBU to be a bit pissed off ?

Wannabe - I think you're absolutely right. I don't for a minute think there was any malice intended and I think if they knew I was remotely upset by it, they would be mortified

My step mother never even met my grandmother and as I said, she happily sold her own mother's jewellery, so she is clearly very much in the "gathering dust" camp.

I would have expected slightly more thought from my dad if I'm honest. He knows how close I was to my Nanna (my dd is named after her for a start !) but he is the most laid back person in the world and I suspect he didn't even know anything about it until after the event and he's not the sort of person to make a fuss about things.

I know I'm perhaps being over sentimental and I certainly don't intend to say anything to them - I was just interested to see what other people thought

Thanks again everyone

YANBU.

I find it bizzare when family members do not ask arround before "getting rid" of things that belonged to someone you loved. I can understand the not knowing you would have wanted it but my first instinct if I wanted to sell family things would be to ask the other members if they are interested in anything (even if I was greedy enough to take money of them as well) before selling it to total strangers.

Some people really are thoughtless. YANBU.

The second wife of a very close relative of mine sold the family home plus everything in it with indecent haste after the death of her husband (to whom she had been married for only a couple of years). This despite the fact that most of the things she sold had been in the family for over 150 years, and most had great sentimental value.

It is incredibly painful for family members, who are not considered or consulted.

I really do feel for you, it is very sad.

YANBU. I would tell your dad that you think it would have been nice of him to offer you the ring, or offer to sell you it if he was planning to get rid of it as she was your granny, but obviously no relative to your stepmother who had no sentimental attachment to the ring.
You could try and find where it went but I suspect identifying 1 gold ring amongst many would be near impossible.
It was very thoughtless, and under the circumstances a bit nasty to dispose of the ring like this.

yanbu

sure step mum didnt mean to upset you,but she prob didnt reliese what the ring meant to you

i blame your dad - he should have asked you,esp as your dear gran brought you up

any chance you can get it back?