I am just passing today, but have a problem only you guys can fix :P.
I had a dd 5 weeks ago, and we moved house 3 weeks ago from a small second floor flat in a close to a larger house with big garden. The house is great but was a complete mess when we moved in - needing a full new kitchen, a new bathroom, all new plug sockets and lights and every single room stripped and fixed. So this obviously took us a few weeks, and we still don't have the kitchen decorated as it was only fitted Monday.
To the point. Obviously pil wanted to visit their gc's during this move. I was living at my parents with them until the house was ready. So while my dp, my dad, my friends and myself were all over scrubbing and painting the house my il's sat im my parents place with the dc's.
One day my mum came in from her work, to find fil in the conservatory. mil was at the shops. DD was asleep, Fil was reading a paper, and DS (22mos) had drawn all over the floors, the windows and the walls with crayons/pens/chalks from my nieces art set. Fil left him to do it. My mum was very angry with ME over it as they had been all over the house and let ds draw on things. My mum didn't mention it to fil though, just me. He then went to my house and made a coffee and stayed away from everyone else there, didn't speak or answer them, just smile and nod kind of thing. After some friends and my dad mentioned that he was just hanging about watching them and not speaking, i had a word with DP about the drawings at my mums and him hanging about like a supervisor, he spoke to fil who said he didn't think it was that bad, plus it was kids crayon and chalk so would wash. (true - it did wash, and it was that bad - even the CREAM cushion covers were scribbled on like road maps with pink felt tip) Fil said he thought DS was allowed the set as it was in the toy box (which is in the living room, not the conservatory - alongside paper). So dp defends fil, saying he didn't realize etc. Moving on to later when my mum says 'Must be something in the name, because John from up the road is a bit weird too' (talking about fil in front of my dp). This was 2 weeks ago.
Il's visited last night and fil just sat again. After they left i pointed out that that was quite strange to visit someone and just watch the TV. Causing a huge argument and DP saying his dad is just shy (i've known him 7 years now - he has not always been 'shy') I said it was ignorant to ignore people in their own home, while flicking through their tv and drinking their coffee. Which made dp even more defensive. Now dp says he isn't talking to my mum until she says sorry for saying fil was weird like john along the street lol and he isn't planning on talking to her till she says sorry. Isn't talking me either. Argh.