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AIBU?

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for not wanting to buy DS a pink ipod nano for Christmas?

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teameric · 28/10/2009 10:12

DS is 10 and pink is his favourite colour.
yes yes I know I shouldn't be swayed by the whole gender stereotype thing,but just feel he might get teased about it when he's out with it.
He plays in a football team and is planning to take it to matches with him for when he is sub, you know what boys at that age are like.
I suggested he choose another colour but he says he dosn't care what anyone else thinks.
tbh I didn't have such a problem with it really until my DH and my ExDP (who is DS's Dad) went into one about it and have put these thoughts in my head.

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teameric · 28/10/2009 10:58

thanks everyone for your positive comments
it's just really starting to piss me off now though because everytime DS mentions anything remotely feminine DH does this face at me....twat

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silverfrog · 28/10/2009 10:58

god, sorry for typos - dd2 helping

sowhatis · 28/10/2009 11:03

sorry, but its hard to say without knowing the child. if it were my boys i wouldnt buy it, think it was more a 'fad' idea and then when he realised the boys would take the pi$$, he would stop using it, so waste of money. i would want it to be used and buy black or white. it is MY opinion POISONTOADSTOOL.

posieparksherbroom · 28/10/2009 11:06

Is your DH quite camp then?

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teameric · 28/10/2009 11:09

yes DH actually minces a bit when he walks now I come to think of it

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pipWereRabbit · 28/10/2009 11:18

sowhatis - I agree, I wouldn't be able to afford to replace an expensive gift after a few weeks if my child changed their mind about the colour. Given the range of skins available for ipods, I'd rather buy a plainer ipod and some seriously funky skins.

Just take a look here

SilverBoots · 28/10/2009 11:19

Sounds similar to my DS, he used to love pink (& Barbie!!), I bought him a pink bicycle for his 7th birthday much to his dad's (now exDH) annoyance.

I don't think his pink phase had any lasting effects ... although he does have a preference for blondes (he's 15 now)

Kerrymumbles · 28/10/2009 11:21

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Niecie · 28/10/2009 11:26

Depends what type of pink it is really. I reckon he could get away with a hot pink with comment but not a pastelly one.

It would be a shame to give in to peer pressure but make sure he realises that not all boys are as open minded and modern as he is and might have a go about it.

So long as he knows, go for it. My DS1's favourite colour is purple which encompasses all shades of lilac and I think I would go for a lilac one if he really wanted one despite it being quite girly. He wouldn't care either.

mangosTrickyrice · 28/10/2009 11:27

Of course you should buy him the one he wants, you've already spoken to him about "other people" and he doesn't care, good for him

diddl · 28/10/2009 11:28

Well, reading this thread, it sounds as if it´s "the fashion" at the moment, so my "worry" would be more that he will not want it anymore once the fashion has passed, but that´s a risk with anything, isn´t it?

Long hair for boys was the thing a bit ago.

NeedCoffee · 28/10/2009 11:29

He sounds great, I love that he's not ashamed to show his individuality. Get him it and get DH and exH pink jumpers for christmas from him. He sounds more mature than they do tbh

FrightsMonth · 28/10/2009 11:32

DS(8) has a pink cricket shirt (charity-related) and he's happy to wear it because it's sports kit. He turns his nose up at anything else pink though.

serenity · 28/10/2009 11:32

I have to say that when DS2 bought his DS, it was with his own saved up birthday money, but if he had suddenly decided that he hated the colour we wouldn't have replaced it, ditto with the MP3 player. With anything we might buy him, if he changed his mind it would be tough really. An IPod isn't life or death, if he's set on a certain sort, you buy it, then he decides not to use it, that really isn't your problem but his.

SoWhat · 28/10/2009 11:37

My DNephew(5)has a pink DS, I don't see a problem with it if that's what he wants.

Casserole · 28/10/2009 12:38

I'd probably buy a white/black/silver one and a pink skin - or maybe a set of coloured skins - then he can mix it up however he wants to and as the fashions and his tastes change - and then tell his Dad and your DH to shut up if he chooses to put the pink one on first!

ChunkyMonkeysMum · 28/10/2009 12:51

Funny how it's always the men who don't think boys should have pink things!! Must be a generation thing as I remember when I was at school, anything pink on a boy would have been "gay", and I think this is what Dad's remember too. They don't realise that it's not such a big thing anymore.

I posted a couple of days ago because my DS1 (6 next week) wants a pink "Hetty" toy hoover for Christmas & DH said I shouldn't buy it for him, I should get him the red & black "Henry" as this one "is for boys" and the pink one "is for girls" (his words, not mine). My argument was, why shouldn't I get him what he wants? I tried to explain (in simple terms, he is a man after all ) that you can't turn someone gay, if our son is gay then he was born that way & buying him the odd pink thing is going to make no difference whatsoever!!!

bigTillyMint · 28/10/2009 12:55

Loads of boys wear pink and look great in it. It especially suits dark-skinned boys / men.

DD has a metallic ping ipod - it doesn't look particularly girly, and she's not a really girly girl anyway.

Sushiqueen · 28/10/2009 13:03

I'd get him the pink one if that is what he wants.

My dss wears a lot of pink as do most of the boys in his school.

My local rugby team all wear pink shirts after the match (club shirt). And no one could accuse any of them of being feminine.

At the end of the day the ipod is for him not your DH or ExDP.

LetThereBeRock · 28/10/2009 13:05

YABU.Get him a pink one.

m66 · 28/10/2009 17:21

My DS is also 10 but when he was at nursery (3) he always mixed up pink and blue. This concerned us so we asked opticians for colour blind test and he is. He can distinguish most colours but mixes blue and pink up and green and orange up. Very good at guessing and learning what colour things should be. Try testing him. May also be that he just likes pink.

GrimmaTheNome · 28/10/2009 17:26

Get a pink one and your DH or Ex can get him non-pink skin.

nighbynight · 28/10/2009 17:31

I have similar agonies sometimes. Dont want to dictate his taste, but fear teasing.
I would go for the non pink, because of the teasing, and explain why if he asks.

cheeseandeyeballsarnie · 28/10/2009 17:32

yabu.its not what colour you like the matters.ds2 favorite colour is pink.

on the other hand id tell him hes blardy lucky to be getting an ipod for christmas whatever colour!

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teameric · 28/10/2009 20:19

Thanks everyone, I have decided to go for it and let him have pink! He also likes the idea of the skins (thanks for the link pip) in case he gets fed up with it

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