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Aibut to spit in my husbands mug before handing him his coffee?

51 replies

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 17:08

I am pretty pissed off with dh. He has had a blister cold sore for the last two weeks. I dont get them. I have worked very hard to avoid them for the last 15 years we have been with eachother.

So today, I cooked dinner, I put the filter coffee maker on, we ate, he was standing next to the coffee maker and I asked "Would you mind pouring me a cup?"

He does, I thank him and start drinking.

He then says "Now, where is my cup"
Then he looks at me... He has given me the cup he has used since the morning.

I am litterally spitting feathers.

I told him next time I have a stinking cold I am going to blardy spit in his coffee.

Aibu?

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EdgarAllenPoo · 27/10/2009 18:19

herpes simplex.

I am the HERPINATOR

I'll be back.

i would think i you were going to start getting sores you'd have got them by now. And as others have said, really not going to kill you. If you ge a tingle, eat fresh fruit and kill the greasy food. Then spit in his mug.

MmeGoblindt · 27/10/2009 18:19

Herpes Simplex is the cold sore one. According to this website, you can only catch it if your DH gives you a big sloppy kiss.

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 18:19

oh yuck!

I had a wet slobbering lingering kiss on the mouth by a neighbours humongous DOG at some point.

I was sick for a week after. I was so weak the doctor prescribed antiemetics, it could not go on.

It was either the dog, or the fine seafood from Stratfords in Kensington Village, holder of a michelin star.

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MmeGoblindt · 27/10/2009 18:21

And that website states that 6 in 10 people who have the virus don't actually get a coldsore. So you might already have it

I think we have now established that YABU to spit in his coffee for giving you a cold sore but YANBU to put salt in his coffee for giving you a manky cup.

I have heard that a large glass of wine helps to ward off herpes.

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 18:26

ok, salt it is!

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PacificWerewolfwoohood · 27/10/2009 18:26

Yep, QSoD, you are immune, congratulations !

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 18:31

lol pacific....

And I think you are right about that wine. There is a nice burgundy in the fridge.

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GibbonWithAnAppleBobbingBibOn · 27/10/2009 18:34

See, now my nose is wrinkling at the mental image of the 'wet slobbering lingering kiss on the mouth by a neighbours humongous DOG'

I like dogs but the smell of dog breath always makes me heave, when they lick your face the saliva dries and the smell seems to linger [vom]

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 18:39

I know what you mean, it was over 10 years ago, and I remember it like it was yesterday. My stomach still churns at the memory. euuugh.

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 27/10/2009 18:40

You might already have it. 50% of people with the virus never have symptoms. After 10 years I'd be surprised if you didn't.

GibbonWithAnAppleBobbingBibOn · 27/10/2009 18:44

Well aren't you just a lil' ray of sunshine kat

Georgimama · 27/10/2009 18:50

My doctor informed me (after having a battery of blood tests - truly there was vial after vial of the stuff - the nurse asked me if I wanted her to stop after she had drawn off six but they needed nine for all the tests) that not only did I not have herpes (the genital kind) I had no sign of herpes infestation anywhere in my body, not even my gut. He seemed pleased, like he had found a medical curiosity.

My response was "I should bloody well hope not!" but apparently almost everyone has herpes in their stomach.

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 18:51

herpes in the stomach? I dread to think from what, and what kind.....

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 27/10/2009 18:53

Well Gibbon it's no biggie, we have all kids of viruses in our bodies that we don't know about, but the herpes one has a stigma for some reason.
Kat2907, herpes of the fanjo

(but the face kind, so it's not that bad, got it off my DH )

GibbonWithAnAppleBobbingBibOn · 27/10/2009 18:55

Wow, not heard that before.

btw quint, I vote you purchase a little bell for DH and demand he declares himself unclean whenever he enters a room as punishment for the cup crime.

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 22:17

You know what, I wish I DID spit in his coffee, he is being a total arse today.

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supersalstrawberry · 27/10/2009 22:24

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QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 22:25

Probably because she is as silly as my husband.

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Pink993 · 13/09/2022 07:03

I know, old thread but just saying, I was with ex husband for 15 years. After we split he accused me of giving him herpes “down there”. I told him I’d just had a barrage of tests including AIDS and herpes amongst others and was totally clear, so where did HE get it from. He blamed it on a nurse he had been with before we met.

Aubriella · 13/09/2022 07:44

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 17:12

Yes, he then said it wouldnt have happened if I had not been so lazy and asked HIM to pour me coffee.....

Stop doung anything for the fucker, since he resents pouring you a coffee and does it passive aggressively by giving you his herpes mug.

sidewayswalking · 13/09/2022 07:50

ZOMBIE THREAD

Aprilx · 13/09/2022 08:00

Sounds like a simple mistake. How disgusting to even think about spitting in somebody’s drink.

HotToddyColdSauvignon · 13/09/2022 08:03

Pink993 · 13/09/2022 07:03

I know, old thread but just saying, I was with ex husband for 15 years. After we split he accused me of giving him herpes “down there”. I told him I’d just had a barrage of tests including AIDS and herpes amongst others and was totally clear, so where did HE get it from. He blamed it on a nurse he had been with before we met.

Why were you googling an old thread from 12 years ago and why would you ignore the zombie warning and WHY?????

for gods sakes

SleeplessInEngland · 13/09/2022 08:05

If the news weren’t clogged up at the moment this thread would definitely be written up as a story.

SleeplessInEngland · 13/09/2022 08:05

Oh ffs, zombie thread. The people who reanimate these are cunts.