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To think that those people who talk about nurseries and studies are delusional?

123 replies

kreecherlivesupstairs · 27/10/2009 08:39

I really can't bear it, when our dd was born she had her bedroom, we didn't have a nursery, posh people have those with nannies who sleep in a small room off the nursery.
It is the same with study. Oh, you'll have to wait to speak to X, he's just in the study.
I had the latter conversation yesterday. I know full well that this family live in a flat like us. Is their study next to the non existant ballroom or is it just the spare room with a computer in it?

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PuppyMonkey · 27/10/2009 10:25

I don't have a study, but I do have an office. Is that still bad?

I have a big living room and a little living room too. No drawing rooms. Or breakfast rooms. Any better?

Fibilou · 27/10/2009 10:28

YABU. Our spare room was the study as I am doing a degree and was using it to study in and it's now the nursery. If you're using the room for that particular purpose then why not call it by the most appropriate name ?

StillSquiffy · 27/10/2009 10:33

But are you OK about peoplle calling a room a Drawing room when it clearly is? DH won't go near ours because it doesn't have a television, the kids are banned from it, so it is only used by laydeeeees. I always have a sniffle of sloe gin in there of an evening, after putting the children down in the nursery.

Jacaqueen · 27/10/2009 10:36

Fine by me Squiffy.

halia · 27/10/2009 10:38

sorry just a bit unreasonable. we have a 5ft wide slip of a room thats called the study because thats what it is used for.
DS room was sometimes the nursery til he was out of babyhood as well because to me a nursery is just what babies have.

Whats wrong with calling a room by the name which tells you what its used for? calling the study the spare room in our house would lead to confusion because due to inability to have any more kids we actually have a spare room as well.
(and no we don't live in a huge house, our room is an OK double, DS room 7x10, bedroom3 is 6x10 and then there's the 5x7 study)

Lexilicious · 27/10/2009 10:44

I have three rooms in this flat, aside from kitchen and bathroom. There's the ironing room (which most people would call a living-dining room), the baby-changing room/nursery which has our bed in the corner, and the man-den containing DP's desk, clothes and power tools. On the sale particulars one day, that'll be laughingly described as a second bedroom.

corriefan · 27/10/2009 10:52

I thought this was going to be a thread about research done into day nurseries!

Anyway, we did talk about a study when dh was a student but it was basically a spare room filled with crap we couldn't be arsed to find another home for, that also had a computer in. We have the equivalent room now which basically fills up with papers and things I need to chuck out until I have a periodical sort usually before someone comes to stay (no computer though, we work (play) on laptops). DS named it grandma's room even though she rarely stays but that't how it is known. The kids' bedroom is called what it is but when they were babies I think we may have used the term nursery, but when I think about it, it is pretty naff.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 27/10/2009 11:41

I didn't explain myself too well in my OP. I just find my teeth on edge when people talk about nurseries and studies. Our 'study' is actually a relatively small room with the dirty and clean washing in it, two computers four bookcases and a tent. If people come to stay they sleep on our bed sofa in 'the room' (I can't bear lounge either, too airporty) if dd has a friend over to sleep they stay in here the space commonly known as the computer room.

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NightShoe · 27/10/2009 11:41

Agree on nursery, but we do have a study, because it is not spare, you can't sleep in it, it has a large desk, computer, printer, telephone and is packed with books. DH works from home in it and I do my degree studies in there in the evening. What on earth else am \i supposed to call it?

pranma · 27/10/2009 11:49

'What's in a name?A room by any other name will serve as well'To misquote Sh.

merryberry · 27/10/2009 12:38

on this strength i also have a:

gun room - bit of patio full of broken sporting equipment and a net and mismatched wellies

larder - under the kitchen shelf, the bag of green potatos in a trolley

cloakroom - large cupboard under the stairs with defunct buglar alarm as well as coats

but i can't lay claim to a boudoir, a dressing room or a morning room. or breakfast room. or library.

QuintessentialShadowsOfDoom · 27/10/2009 12:50

We have two studies, one for me and one for dh. You could not sleep in them though, desks, shelves, computers, printers, wireless router.

Adjacent to MY study, is the larder. It really is reflective of my dual role in the house. There are shelves for dry foods, baking equipment, seasonal china and the Freezer.

We have a big open plan living room, a kitchen and the guest bathroom. 3 Bedrooms, a family bathroom.

We have 1 Sports Utility room, where we store sporting shoes and clothes, camping gear, skiing boots, alpine helmets, and a storage room with shelving and hanging space for more clothes, tools, and what not. we would be totally cluttered without these rooms. Both of them are the sizes of small single bedrooms, but as they have no windows, we could not classify them as either spare room, or box room, or anything useful really. There is ventilation, and light, and storage space!

The skiis, snowboards and bikes are in the garage.

GhoulsafraidofVirginiaWoolf · 27/10/2009 12:55

YA(a bit)U

I have a broom cupboard room full of books, a computer and I use it to work on my part time degree - yeah it's a study. I study in here (and mumsnet - maybe I should call it my Mumsnettoir or some such ). Used to be DD's bedroom but then #2 came along so they share the big room and I get the small one. This is technically a 3 bed house but if you put a bed in here there would be no room for any luxuries like err, a wardrobe or a chair

I see what you mean about nursery. It's a bit poncey, like referring to a flat as a "home" or a "dwelling". But life's too short and all that.

Miggsie · 27/10/2009 12:57

Our smallest bedroom is referred to as "the computer room" as it has 7 PCs in it.
I work in computers, if you were wondering.

All other rooms can, and often are, referred to as "the crap hole", due to the entire family's failure to tidy up anything.

I do know someone who refers to his "orangery". He also has a holiday home with a gun room.

carocaro · 27/10/2009 13:00

I watched Oprah Winfrey interview Tom Cruise as his mountain ski hideaway massive lodge type thing recently and they have a MUD ROOM where they take of their coats and boots etc and put them into lovley named wooden sections and hooks, so I then started to call our utility room the MUD ROOM to emulate Tom and Katie, to make the teeny room with the back door in it, and washing machine, shoes and coats and general crapola in it and make it seem more glamorous to spend time in it, otherwise I feel like Dobby the house elf as I spend a lot of my time in here.

Oh thie things I do to make life just a tad more interesting!

me23 · 27/10/2009 13:01

YANBU
dds room is the same size as a study 7ftx7ft!
I'm a full time student so really could do with a study but no space, use a corner in the living room.

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 27/10/2009 13:02

When we finally build the kitchen extension and DH and I can dedicate a room purely to work in, it is not going to be the study, oh no, nor yet the office. It will be called the library.

motheroftwoboys · 27/10/2009 13:11

We call our "study" the office because that is what it is used as. My DH is freelance and does work from there. Naming of rooms very much depends on the sort of house you have. We used to live in a Victorian terrace with an upstairs "drawing Room" in addition to the dining room and family room/living room/lounge/sitting room - whatever you want to call it - downstairs. Everyone who has those houses does call it a drawing room - what else could you call it? We moved to a smaller Ewardian terrace and we have been here 4 years. Still don't know what to call the room that is not the dining room. . Can't bear "lounge".

heverhoney1 · 27/10/2009 13:15

I live in a flat - The estate agent told us we are not allowed to call our "Study" a room because it doesnt have a window in it - But bearing in mind it can fir a computer desk, a set of shelves and all our camping/ fishing gear it is a little more than a cupboard.

GrimmaTheNome · 27/10/2009 13:26

Caro, I think I've just rechristened our utility room. Mud room it is for sure!

OP - Nursery is delusional, but hey, new mums are allowed to be a bit, aren't they? Study or office isn't. Lots of new houses have a room designated as a study which isn't really suitable to be anything else. I am definitely in my office now - I work from home and have 2 or 3 desktop computers on my desk (and DH has another on his). Bookcases and filing cabinets fill most of the rest of the space - theres nothing spare about this room!

OrmIrian · 27/10/2009 13:29

Well in our house the boys' room is known as the Entropy Wing. Because of it's potential for disorder.

KERALA1 · 27/10/2009 13:33

We have a study am in it now . Also a drawing room though we only call it that between ourselves for fear of being utterly poncetastic. Thats what flukily selling up in London the month before the credit crunch and moving somewhere cheaper does for you...

kreecherlivesupstairs · 27/10/2009 13:35

I should add we have an underground bunker in case of nuclear war. Me and dh often wonder what we should call it? It is completely full of junk and pictures so we called call it the gallery. Sadly they are all still in the boxes we shipped them over in. DD has now got two gerbils in her bedroom should this be our menagerie?

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CaptainNancy · 27/10/2009 13:38

YABU.
Aspirational perhaps.

heverhoney1 · 27/10/2009 13:41

Loving the entropy wing!!! You do that it can only get so disorganised before it stats to organise itself? I tried to practice this theory a lot in my youth but never quite reached the critical point

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