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to moan at nursery and start sending in daily rations of nappies??

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smokinaces · 26/10/2009 21:44

Picked DS2 up from nursery tonight and saw NAPPIES written in large letters on his day planner. Basically meaning they need more brought in.

He goes 2 times a week. (though 2 weeks ago was only in for 1 day) and I took a pack of 44 nappies in only 3 weeks ago. I double checked today I they do 3 changes a day (breakfast, lunch, dinner) although I very often drop him off at 8am saying to them not to bother changing him till lunch as he's literally had a clean one on at 7.55 (we're a 2 minute drive).

AIBU to moan at them that they've gone through 44 nappies supposedly for my son in just 4 or 5 days? (he was in someone elses today as they had run out) Surely 44 nappies /3 changes a day should give me 14 days so 7 weeks?!

I've told them I'm not keeping any stock at the nursery anymore and will send 4 nappies in in his rucksack everyday and they'd have to go to his peg before changing him. The NN was quite shocked I was questionning all this and was trying to assure me they would only have been used by him (he's the only one in Sainsburys purple ones apparently) but I'm a bit pissed off that I pay enough in fees and have to supply my own nappies anyway, let alone seeming to supply other children too! There is no way surely they could have gone through that many nappies in those short days - DS2 is 19m and routine in his poo etc and I rarely change him mroe than 3 times a day at home.

So AIBU to not give them "stocks" for their changing room and to have moaned at them?

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smokinaces · 26/10/2009 22:15

shine on, I pay £31 a day I think? and get a sibling discount ontop. And its commuter belt land really, so its not too bad. I would prefer maybe £35 a day to include the nappies and wipes but at least I'm not paying more for less IYSWIM?

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pigletmania · 26/10/2009 22:16

thats good smokinaces my dd 2.8 years was and still is a 2 day pooer and a very very heavy wetter, she loves to drink water and milk a lot. Getting very hard now that i put her in knickers for potty training lol

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smokinaces · 26/10/2009 22:19

piglet my 3 year old is like that - poos about 4 times a day and wees for Britain. Thank god he was toilet trained at just after his 2nd birthday or I'd go insane!!

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RumourOfAHurricane · 26/10/2009 22:19

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pigletmania · 26/10/2009 22:22

he he it was costing me a lot in pull ups so i had enough and bought training pants as it was about time that dd was potty trained. I tend to go through a pack of 44 pull ups in about a week and a half substituted by supermarket own brands for night time and naps. Marking the nappies sounds like a very good idea and sending in the right amount that he needs.

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smokinaces · 26/10/2009 22:23

I am definately going to ask tomorrow. I will just say something like "look, sorry to question this again, but can you relook for nappies? Its just I only brought them in at the beginning of the month, he's only been in 5 days since and it was a pack of 40 odd nappies so I'm a bit confused how they could have all gone?"

will come and post about what they said about "nappygate" when I get home

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Rollergirl1 · 26/10/2009 22:23

Jesus, I'm paying £55 and £58 a day and all they provide is their food!

pigletmania · 26/10/2009 22:24

dum dum dum dum nappygate mystery continues watch this space

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EyeballsintheSky · 26/10/2009 22:31

I'm paying £52 and have to provide nappies and wipes as well. But they are very good and the nappies and wipes last ages. They're probably using other people's nappies for dd

PumpkinsCantDanceTheTango · 26/10/2009 22:32

marking place

Have seen nappies stolen (would say borrowed but hardly likely to be returned after!) for people who have forgotten to send in nappies and have been told "oh use Xs he always has loads of nappies"

hf128219 · 26/10/2009 22:32

£57 per day here - and have to supply nappies and wipes (but that's all though)!

colditz · 26/10/2009 22:37

Just ask them, bl;untly, why they have changed him on average 8 times a day!

FourArms · 26/10/2009 22:50

Or switch to reusables... no-one ever used one of DS1's! (that I know of! ) They did bin one once though, but I asked them to go through the nappy bins to find it (all double wrapped in nappy bags) - it was a new one after all!!!

bridewolf · 26/10/2009 23:02

i understand that you are not happy because the staff have used up your childs nappies on another child...............but i can understand why that happens.

other parents , not supplying nappies, even though being asked, repeatedly, are the cause of the problem.

what does a good nursery nurse do when faced with a small child sitting in its own poo?
leave it because parents have forgot the to replace the nappy or just take one from another child's pack?..............what would you choose to do?

take another pack in to the nursery and ask them to make them last as long as possible next time. the staff should choose another childs pack to dip into.

lou031205 · 26/10/2009 23:10

bridewolf surely the answer is that the nursery takes it up with those parents, or buys an emergency pack and charges. Not that a parent subsidises the cost of other children's nappies

MrsThePoint · 26/10/2009 23:15

Why not use cloth nappies? Then they come back to you, you know how many are being used and how often they are changed and they work out cheaper?

onadietcokebreak · 26/10/2009 23:15

agree lou...the nursery need to address the issue if that is the real reason nappies are disappearing,

MrsThePoint · 26/10/2009 23:16

Oh, FourArms already said that!

dilemma456 · 26/10/2009 23:30

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smokinaces · 27/10/2009 18:48

Wow dilemma, a TV?!! Our nursery doesnt even own one - which incidently is actually a shame as they wanted to do music dance videos with the kiddies like DS2.

The Nanny today apologised twice. She said they are more structured now and just moved to a 5 times a day changing routine (9,11,1,3,5) which could be why he's gone through quickly. Though she couldnt understand where the other 15 or so nappies went still!

I have asked he goes back to the routine he had in the baby room (3 changes a day) - and then the little mite decided to poo 3 times today, so needed masses of changes!!

They have said that 4-5 nappies a day in his bag is fine - and if I do bring in another bulk load they will be extra vigilant with keeping an eye on them.

Incidently I actually have loads of cloth nappies upstairs waiting to sell. I just cant use them in this house as I have no where to dry them/store them dirty/time to wash them. Its a shame, as it would be a real saver of cash and situations like this - but I just cant use them in this house and in my situation now.

So, no solid answer to nappygate - but am happy with the response today and felt reassured I wasnt being mocked for being an awkward parent too!

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smokinaces · 27/10/2009 18:49

incidently is obviously my word of the day. I apologise, its what being at work all day does to you

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dilemma456 · 27/10/2009 18:51

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smokinaces · 27/10/2009 19:05

I'm not surprised dilemma. My nursery had one incident with ratios reported to ofsted a couple of years ago and since have been shit hot - so much so that tonight they needed more water in a jug, but the Nanny wouldnt go because it would leave 10 children with one nanny (and me with my two boys) she was waiting until someone else came in.

They're not allowed sweets at the nursery either (but you can take a cake to share for birthdays) and the snacks I take have to be healthy. One of the Nannies was eating her lunch in DS1 (3) room today and had a sandwich and crisps - DS1 apparently asked for one and she said no, as the children arent allowed anything like that under their healthy eating. He was quite happy with the raisins he was offered instead :-)

I really cant fault the nursery. They've been fantastic with the kids and me through my marraige break up, and are dealing with DS2 serious biting habit really well too. Its just a shame not every nursery is good!

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MonsterousNasalPustule · 27/10/2009 19:10

Blimey, nappy changes every 2 hrs, i take your not considering that at home then Smoke

Tho I don't feel her response was really that good, your still missing 3 days supply of nappies that you gave to them for your ds.