DH can't understand why I am annoyed with him....

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He got up and made the dd's breakfast this morning. I got up shortly.

He then went and did the shopping, while I washed up/tidied and entertained dd2.

He decided not to have dinner at dinner time, because there was football on so could I do it later. For 6pm. He turned up at 7:30 after texting my friend to tell her he would be late

He went to the pub to watch footy.

Now he is too tired to do the washing up. My niece is coming tomorrow, so there will be no way I can do it tommorrow. I will have to it tonight, after cooking dinner and having the dds most of the day, while he has been at pub

she said he doesnt do it often.(as in go to the pub im thinking,i could be reading wrong)

No he doesn't go to the pub much. He used to, but not now.

He has come around a bit now and we have discussed it. Apparantly he was texting my friend because he knew she would be on msn/facebook seeing if she could come for dinner. He says he couldn't get in touch with me.

Re: the cleaning. He still hasn't done it, but says he will start helping more. He still hasn't apologised over the ice cream incident.

I'd let him off this once, he sounds like a good hubby, it's not like he did nothing, he got breaky ready and did the shopping. There's no way DH would do the shopping lol. If he was an ongoing slacker I'd be pissed, if he's usually good at helping out I'd let him off this once it's just the dishes. It's good you let him out to enjoy himself watching the game

exactly-my dh does bugger all really.if he works hard and goes out rarely for an afternoon and comes back bit drunk-so be it.whats a few dishes!he still shouldnt have spoken to you like that though.

Am wondering what century I've landed in on this thread.
"he'll start helping more?"
"if he's usually good at helping, I'd let him off"
"what's a few dishes?"
"you let him out to enjoy himself"
"get up 30 mins earlier and do the dishes in peace"
"commanding the OP to clean up"
"lying on the sofa watching her run round"

Are there really men out there who live like this and get away with it?

Well you could always leave him.

She doesn't need to leave him, fgs (or was that a joke?) Just get him trained - or at least to realise that it's not her job to run around after him, nor his just to "help."
Split the chores FAIRLY!

Clam he apologised this morning. He has promised that from now on, we will have sunday lunch at lunchtime and he will make the coffee and wash up after it without whinging and having to be nagged.

He works long hours, so I don't expect him to do a lot in the house, just pick up after himself and help out on a weekend.

He is however, cleaning the yard top to bottom one morning this week, so that dd1 can have fireworks at her Halloween party, and he is carving 7 pumpkins. Which he enthusiastically agreed to . Though he had little chjoice to agree considering the way he spoke to me yesterday. I think he realised that.

He has also realised that drinking on an afternoon, like his father used to does not suit him. And unlike his mother I will not dutifully reheat his dinner and bring him a coffee after his afternoon nap. If there is football on an afternoon, he will watch it at home and go out for a drink after the washing up has been done.

My sister and her boyfriend came this morning and have taken my dds and niece to the park, so it all worked out in the end, as I now have the chance to get everything done that I didn't do yesterday, due to having dinner so late and then no help.

Fair dos. He's off the hook!