we're in the process of a big big DIY project, inlaws offered to come up for a long weekend to a)help paint and b) look after DS for 2 afternoons while I was at work.
So far so good, but........am I totally unreasonable to get a bit annoyed when the long weekend turned into 9 days, and when they seem to constantly criticise my choices etc on the kitchen?
I had a huge fight with DH last night because of this - I was trying to explain that when I had said last week - I'd prefer it if your parents just came for 4-5 days rather than 9-10 days, and he said OK that he woudl have that conversation with his mum?
Cos then I Txtd her and said "lovely to have you for the weekend" only to get a txt back saying "oh do you want to get rid of us then" because she was going to stop for the whole time and DH hadn't said a bloody thing to her about only coming for the long weekend.
I am actually grateful for the help but every time I hear the dreaded phrase "oh but surely ....." followed by a negative comment I feel my patience and gratitude wearing thin.
On top of this DH this morning told me that "people" find it very difficult to deal with me because i have "emotional upsets" and they dont' know why. Well that means he must have trotted back and TOLD his parents about the fight (we were out for a late night dogwalk).
He also said that 'they' find it even more difficult because then afterwards I am 'fine' and back to 'normal' - oh so now its wrong of me to get over my hour or so of upset and anger, get some sleep and try and put it behind me?
amazing isn't it that not a single other person except my inlaws (and occasionally DH) ever says I am 'emotionally unstable, easily upset, awkward to deal with - could it possibly be that THEY are a bit difficult?