to expect friends to get up when their DD does ?

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We have friends that either stay with us, or we stay at theirs once a month or so.
Virtually always, they do not appear until after one of us has got up when our DS and their DD (once one of them hears the other they are both awake), gone downstairs, given them breakfast etc.

This weekend was worse than ever - yesterday the children surfaced at nearly 8 (they are both 3), I got up, followed by DH a bit later, and it wasn't for another hour and a half that friends surfaced 'we heard that DD was up and decided to have a lie in'. This morning it was a full hour - and no apology etc.

They never offer to get up with the children in return either.

AIBU to be annoyed by this ?

They could get up and keep the kids entertained while the OP sorts breakfast. Or, given the regularity of their visits, they could help get breakfast ready. Don't really understand the people saying "they couldn't help themselves to breakfast". If they're that close friends of course they can! Most guests I would do it for them but if someone is staying over every month we're in "you know where the cupboards are" territory.

My BIl and SIL ALWAYS do this at our house and my inlaws. Drives me potty!

bloody hell they could aat least take turns

They are most definatly in the category of people who are comfortable to get their own coffee/rootle around for breakfast etc (although always offered) - we have been staying at each others houses for the last 10 years or so (and both the DH, my DH and I have been friends for 19 years odd).

It doesn't matter which house we are in either.

Bed didn't bother me, but it would have been nice to know if it was likely (if your child is not reliable, then it seems polite to let a host know - but DS isn't dry at night yet so I haven't dealt with this)

Annas children are obv a lot better trained than mine - playing round the house unsupervised is an interesting thought. And tbh, they'd have only come and bounced on me anyway

I would send any guests back to bed if I'd got up first with my DC. But I suppose the point is they didn't check with you. I don't see the big deal really, one of you was up with your DD and it's only one extra child.

Having 3 noisy insane children, 1 extra doesn't make any difference to me!

But to do it even when the OP is the guest at their house Twintummy? That's unreasonable surely. If they let the OP have a lie in when she was a guest then I'd say it was fair. But to always be the ones having a lie in, that's selfish.