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AIBU?

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To want to bin this friendship?

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electra · 21/10/2009 10:38

I have a male friend who is definitely a bit quirky. However, he has often been there for me when I really needed a friend and has tried to make me feel better as I have recently had quite a few phases of being unwell. A while back, I had a guy on my facebook list who I had known since school. He started harassing me and I blocked him and we no longer speak. This man was awful and assaulted me on a few occasions.

The aforementioned friend knew all about the harasser because he used to keep writing on my wall, etc. The other day, however 'friend' started messaging men on my facebook list because he was 'bored' and he also decided to message the person I blocked. Since then he has been going on about how nice harasser is and making me feel paranoid by hinting that he has been discussing me.

Why would a friend do this? Even as I am typing this I am aware of how totally bonkers it sounds!!!! It is beyond childish, surely?

I sent him an email saying I am angry about it and that real friends do not try to f*ck with each others heads. There is no sign of an apology.

AIBU to bin this friendship now, considering he has been a good friend in other ways?

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electra · 21/10/2009 22:37

Thanks 6feetunder - I have deleted him from facebook. There is no point in having him in my life...

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Sharpyharpy · 22/10/2009 07:45

Sound moves - sounds like he was trying to rengage some drama in your life for his own amusment

BalloonSlayer · 22/10/2009 08:09

Sounds like you were right to bin the friendship, Electra, but does it have to go as far as changing your mobile number with all its accompanying inconvenience?

Whatever happened to just ignoring his calls? (Easy with caller display, when I were a lass you had to get someone to say you were in the bath )

He has obviously committed "conduct unbecoming a friend" but does that merit treating him like a crazed stalker?

The chances are that you'd ignore two calls and he'd say "Oh, OK, whatever" and forget all about you.

electra · 22/10/2009 09:07

BalloonSlayer - but I don't want him to leave messages on my mobile - it's quite annoying. My mobile number is changed but last night he called the house phone at 4am......

Anyway I am sure I've done the right thing.

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BalloonSlayer · 22/10/2009 09:13

4am? Blimey - you're right, you have done the right thing

electra · 22/10/2009 09:31
Grin
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