To expect Dh to actually give a toss that it's my 40th birthday tomorrow?

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Been told there won't be a present as we are skint(finds money for gambling though) went out with Ds to get me a card today with a face like thunder, had to arrange my own party with no help or enthusiasm from him, both working tomorrow, him all day so I am on my own all tomorrow night, and am feeling bloody sorry for myself. Make me feel better.

That's really crap of your DH. Is he always this thoughtless?

Anyway, I expect your DS will help you enjoy the day (how old is he?)

Happy Birthday for tomorrow.

how did you celebrate his last birthday?

silly wanker (him not you). happy birthday

Is usually not so good at presents, surprises, etc, but his generall crapness has exceeded even his standards this year!
I made a fuss of him on his last one, as I always do, wrapped presents from me and little things from
DS , went out for dinner, did nice things all day.

Don't care about grand gestures, just something that shows me he cares.

YANBU AT ALL, IN FACT I WOULD EXPECT HIM TO DO SOMETHING EVEN IF ITS ONLY BREAKFAST IN BED AND A SMALL BUNCH OF FLOWERS!

Congratulations on your birthday

Commiserations on your tosser husband.

I don't mind grand gestures myself

So he will be out all day and night which is brilliant for starters but if it's job I suppose it can't be helped. Why don't you postpone celebrating it till Saturday so he can be fresh, have some time and energy to put into it.

Can you arrange something nice for yourself for tomorrow though?

That's just shockingly shite and there are no excuses whatsoever. I'm sorry - do what you can to make tomorrow night a good one.

Go and book yourself in to a spa and tell him that's his present to you. That's what I'll be doing if my husband ignores mine.

Aw, it's my birthday tomorrow as well. Admittedly not such a special one (23), but I feel like it's a waste of time. I'll be at uni, DP at work (where he'll find out for certain he's being made redundant), then I'll have loads of work to do in the evening.

And I'm going through some really shitty personal stuff at the moment which is rightly, but completely, overshadowing the fact that it's my birthday.

Try not to focus on the actual day and pick another day to do whatever it is that will make you most happy. Seeing a show, beauty treatment, new book, whatever it is.

Happy birthday, birthday twin!
x

Don't get him anything for christmas?

Happy birthday slacksally! We should have a joint mumsnet birthday party tonight, they all love a good party on here.

unless hes actually planning something as a surprise?
maybe? I a remote possibility I suppose.
what a wanker he would be then eh

If your dh 'finds money for gambling' when you are skint you have bigger problems than him not celebrating your birthday.

I would expect a whole months gambling money coming my way for my birthday.

Go out for the evening with a girlfriend or two then. Celebrate it without him.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! I hope it's better than expected!

Happy Birthday

Happy birthday!

When DH forgot my birthday last year, I went shopping with his credit card and got myself a rather fab present. More than made up for it.