saying no to my child who was being naughty

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have just arrived home from a day out with my ds. i was on a busy train when i gave my 18month old a fruit shoot he threw it on the floor so i warned him if he threw it again he wasnt getting it back. this time he threw it at a passenger i apologised and quite rightly refused to give it back to my ds. when my ds was crying for his fruit shoot back and i refused some woman began giving me abuse saying i am abusing my child by refusing him a drink. i feel sick that it comes across like that but she did witness everything. this is making me have a fear of going out. i know am oversensitive but this has really upset me

Scottishmummy - we have the same problem. I am constantly told that ds will catch pneumonia because I haven't put shoes on him. So sick of explaining that shoes are in the bottom of the buggy because he threw them at a pigeon...

Good for you! I sat in our local M&S coffee shop two weeks ago with my twins, after their ballet lesson. Twin 2 had refused to go into ballet and had been a horror for the 45 minutes her sister was in there. So I told her she wouldn't be having a biscuit (usual post-ballet routine) and didn't back down. She had to sit with us whilst Twin 1 had a biscuit and she didn't have anything. Obviously M&S on a Thursday afternoon was full of tut-tutting old ladies, but I didn't care - stand your ground, I say, otherwise they won't learn the lesson you're trying to teach them.

(Cow-watch - any opinions about a biscuit EVERY Thursday?)