To be annoyed by friend's 'generosity'

[legowoman]

(Namechange so friends I've spoken to in real life about this don't know my usual MN name)

I've been ttc for two years. Best friend got pregnant second month trying - has lovely little girl now a 18 months old. We met up the other day and she said she had something for me - a pregnancy test. She said it was in her cupboard and she didn't need it (as not trying for another yet) and the use by date runs out in two weeks).

I know she is being nice but I felt really patronised and she was being really insensitive. Also, with two weeks left on sell by - what use to me really?

I know she was trying to be thoughtful but felt like slap in the face. I just smiled and said thank you of course but she always does this kind of thing (eg on her wedding day when I was single she said 'I hope you are as happy as me one day' - also trying to be nice but I felt like slapping her.

Go on - tell me I am a bitch.

Just sensitive. This is a very sensitive time for you. If she is a friend she would feel mortified if you told her she's putting her foot in it.

I have a friend who is prone to putting her foot in it, when I was sleep deprived she would go on about how she had a four hour long nap! Then tell me she felt guilty about it because I couldn't do it.

i am one of those who wouldn't know tact if it ran me over, so i think she was just not aware of how her comments might come across.

i think she was just being nice and maybe hopeful for you that you would catch soon?

don't think badly of her, she just sounds like she's being nice and just doesn't know how to without you having to go

I got pregnant very quickly and passed an unused test to my friend along with some folic acid after my scan. It never occured to me that my friend would be hurt. I was trying to stop them being wasted. (If you RL name begins with a J, I'm really sorry!)