DH's Dad has cancer. He is terminal. He was diagnosed earlier this year & since then I have had to keep on at DH to call to see how he is etc.....
DH's family are not very good at keeping in contact at the best of times.
FIL was admitted to a hospice 2 weeks ago today for respite. FIL's partner did not call us to let us know (although I feel that if DH had actually bothered to call more regularly he would have known about this), but she called my SIL who then didn't bother to let us know until Wednesday night last week when he had already been there 6 days!!
First thing Thursday morning I organised for flowers to be delivered to him same day with a card saying we loved him & were thinking of him. I also made a point of calling the hospice every day after that to see how he was (sometimes twice a day). I organised for my Mum to have our kids on Sunday so that we could go and visit. (We live 1.5hrs away from the hospice and due to work commitments weren't able to get there earlier than that). FIL told us that he has decided to stop treatment as the chemo made him very sick. He wants what time he has left to be quality time which we totally understand.
When we got home DH & I had a long chat & I explained that I don't mean to nag at him to call his Dad, but felt that for his own sake it is important to let his Dad know he cares as I'd hate for him to feel guilty when his Dad is no longer here. He agreed with me.
On Monday eve I asked him to call his Dad, which he did. He said at the end of the call "I'll give you a call tomorrow".
On Tuesday I asked him if he had called & he said "No". I didn't push him.
On Wednesday I asked him if he had managed to put a call through. He said no again, so I called the hospice to see how he was.
Tonight I said to him "After dinner, would you do me a favour & just give your Dad a quick call seeing as you told him on Monday that you'd call Tuesday & didn't", to which he replied "I wish you'd stop going on, it's really pissing me off".
Now, AIBU for thinking that he should be calling his Dad every day at the moment, as this time is so precious & he will never be able to get it back ???