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to think that it's OK for DS (age12) to drink the remainder of his milk from his cereal bowl at breakfast?

84 replies

missismac · 15/10/2009 13:43

Dh thinks it disgusting, but I just can't back him up as it doesn't bother me a jot. However DD13 has also objected, and DH said to her "I know, I agree, but I can't do anything because Mum won't back me up". I'm questioning whether they're right and I'm wrong, as well as being annoyed that Dh phrased his reply like that.

I seem to recall that the French commonly had a bowl of hot choc for breakfast, I don't see this is any different?

OP posts:
SpringySponge · 15/10/2009 14:08

'you don't see people sitting in cafes/restaurants doing it so therefore it's not the done thing.'

BrokkenHarted · 15/10/2009 14:10

HAHA spring tut tut....

BrokkenHarted · 15/10/2009 14:10

oops i mean sprinY

BrokkenHarted · 15/10/2009 14:11

lol.... i give up.......

SpringySponge · 15/10/2009 14:11

I'm very discreet!

I also run my finger around the edge of the plate / bowl, too.

I should probably just get my coat.

ChunkyMonkeysMum · 15/10/2009 14:12

Nothing wrong with it as far as I'm concerned. DS1 does this too.

I wouldn't allow him to do it if we were out, but in the privacy of his own home, why shouldn't he ??

YANBU

diddl · 15/10/2009 14:13

Cute in a toddler.

Bad manners now.

TBH,I´d be wondering why there´s so much milk left after the cereal.

Mine usually only have a couple of spoonfuls left.

Jujubean77 · 15/10/2009 14:13

Why can't he use his spoon?

SpringySponge · 15/10/2009 14:14

It takes ages to spoon up all of the excess milk & it makes a far more irritating noise. Repeatedly.

BrokkenHarted · 15/10/2009 14:14

thank you juju

PuppyMonkey · 15/10/2009 14:16

I would just like to say that I think some of you are barking... What aperson does in their own home is no-one else's business....

Also, my dad, God rest his soul, used to put a bit of his tea onto his saucer and drink that. Made it a nicer temp to drink. Irish tradition, I think...

notyummy · 15/10/2009 14:17

Animals, the lot of you.

You'll be telling me next that you don't tip your soup bowl away from you when eating.

This place is going to the dogs.

crumpet · 15/10/2009 14:21

It's bad manners.

SpringySponge · 15/10/2009 14:30

But notyummy, if I tipped my soup bowl away from me, how would I pour it into my mouth? It'd all end up in my lap!

PuppyMonkey · 15/10/2009 14:30

And Lord knows how you cope with Coco Pops turning the milk all chocolatey...

notyummy · 15/10/2009 14:35

You tip the bowl away from your lap i.e not facing towards you, but facing the table, and then you eat it.

Tbh, not really sure why. One of the VERY old fashioned rules my mother taught me that I now don't use. Some of them have stood me in really good stead at some very old fashioned formal dinners I have been to at various times in my career - which is why I will probably pass most of them on to dd. She can 'deploy' them if in a formal situation.

Pheebe · 15/10/2009 14:48

DH is 31 and does it! Why shouldn't he in the privacy of his own home? As long as DS knows its not appropriate in public who cares.

ApplesinmyPocket · 15/10/2009 14:51

Well I just did that very thing myself! No-one was watching, though...

Remember Heidi? she used to drink goat's milk from a big wooden bowl, I remember the picture in the book - no spoon - no handles - just tip and drink. Tell DH it is a fine habit sanctioned by many centuries and Swiss goatherds.

iwascyteenagewerewolf · 15/10/2009 14:51

It's times like this I really relish being a pleb. I have never ever been put in a situation where someone actually gives a shit what side of the bowl I eat my soup from.

Stigaloid · 15/10/2009 15:05

YANBU - waste of milk otherwise.

My husband licks the plate sometimes - i think that is wrong (although complimentary to my cooking!)

notyummy · 15/10/2009 15:17

TBH loads of manners are an irrelevance much of the time - but being grossed out by someone slurping/licking away in public is different. Up to people what they do in their own home.

I think as long as you know what is socially acceptable and do it in public, you are unlikly to be unduely hampered. I would hate dd to encounter prejudice if she chose to go into a line of work where expectations were that you knew how to behave in a formal setting. I wont expect her to always know which knife and fork to use at home (i.e we dont have that many courses!) but I will teach her how to navigate round a preoper 'posh do' as it could be a really handy life skill.

Of course it could be like me and algebra - something I was forced to learn and have never encountered in my life again!

stleger · 15/10/2009 15:17

My ds does it, he is nearly 18. He puts extra milk on his cereal so he has enough to drink out of the bowl when finished. if he has weetabix, he has cereal later in the day so he can drink the milk from the bowl. And I don't care!

diddl · 15/10/2009 15:42

I think the point now might more be that other family members are objecting.

It´s not nice to be eating at a table with someone whose manners you find "disgusting"

leftangle · 15/10/2009 15:48

My DH drinks my left over milk. Think it's fine as long as they know not to do it when eating out/with grandparents.

leftangle · 15/10/2009 15:48

My DH drinks my left over milk. Think it's fine as long as they know not to do it when eating out/with grandparents.